Feminine behaviour and dress /teachers/"coaches" in Sydney.

[roxie rudi]

I have just had the okay for a HRT commencement report from Dr Patrick Toohey. Since I have already forwarded my MTF gender change blood tests to Dr Hayes I think my next step is to find ways to have feminine behaviour taught to me. Do any of my sisters here have any suggestions? I have already asked about speech pathology here girls so that's alright but I need to know how to dress and act since I am rapidly reaching my dream. Please note that I am 46 and my decision to transition was only made in November after many prior years of GD. But I will be a quick learner when something feels this right, as I'm sure you girls can appreciate. Furthermore I am also saving money hand over fist for my surgeries.

Hoping you gals can help,
Ciao le mie sorelle,
Roxanne.

[Serenation]

Hi Roxie, I've heard of someone in Adelaide that did this sort of thing. Try to be yourself and let your natural movements through instead of blocking them like your normally did to fit in as a boy. I guess if that's not enough maybe something like this would be helpful. If you are walking around thinking about how are moving though people will see some things up.

[roxie rudi]

Thanks Serenation,
I'm a natural showoff so that makes good sense to me. However I have been raised and I have also hidden in utterly "blokey" personas throughout too much of my life that a little knowledge wouldn't go astray.

[Laura_7]

Those might help :

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,189788.msg1689506.html#msg1689506

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,199092.msg1770515.html#msg1770515


hugs

[roxie rudi]

Thanks girls.
I can live the flow because I do love the flow. I am going to simply be me. And with this outlined guidance I will be comfortable FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE.

Physically I will be passable because I will spend enough on this to occur if HRT doesn't do this for me anyway. Furthermore I am not a tall or largely framed person either. However I am terribly ignorant because I need to learn so much, dress and shoe sizes remain unknown to me for example.

I have been too effective at being a completely masculine boofheaded horror. I really would like a little guidance. So are there any places to go or people to see for the sadly ignorant in Sydney? I have just come in from the cold and I have never been a part of a helpful community in this matter. I really am lost to an unacceptable degree but at least I can live the feeling. Because it's a feeling that is very real, very beautiful and very overwhelming. 

Ciao le mie sorelle,
xoxo,
Roxanne.

[Cindy]

Sorry about this but I was in Sydney a few weeks back with Grace and Catherine Sarah, you could have and would have been most welcome to join us.

Grace and Catherine are very natural lovely women, and I do my bit as well

Grace may know of some meet up events that are coming up. I know there use to be a regular meet up at 5 Locks RSL club.

[Ms Grace]

I don't know of any fashionista/deportment types in Sydney... I learned through trial and error although I am the observant type and already had a sense of what fashions/styles I liked the look of from years of coveting them. Working with a lot of stylish women at my previous job helped no end. I do believe the Gender Centre may provide some form of support re styling, or they used to.

Depending on your foot size you might be lucky enough to be in the size 10 & under club, much easier to get footwear in those sizes. If you are 11+ you will most likely need specialist and/or online shoe shops. There was Long Line Shoes in Parra and Sydney but they unfortunately moved out Penrith way I think.

Grace and Catherine are very natural lovely women...

blushes...

[Cindy]

Grace and Catherine are very natural lovely women...

blushes...

You owe me dinner for the compliment next time I'm there


Roxie, one thing I often tell new girls. Sit in a shopping mall and watch how women move and interact, you will learn a lot in a few hours.

[roxie rudi]

Thank you Grace and Cindy you have been so very helpful. Furthermore I sincerely love your open generousity about joining you when you were in Sydney Cindy.

I like Five Dock because I have always wanted to be Sofia Loren and I have always wanted to own a pink Ducati or cute little pink Vespa. Viva Italia! I hope that something starts up there again because nothing beats face to face joy and friendship. And I would like to meet some girls that understand me. I know that you are from Adelaide Cindy and while there are certainly Italianate suburbs in Adelaide Five Dock isn't one of them. Because it's in Sydney. And on the wrong coast. (And I have read your previous mention of Five Dock RSL in a thread I started when I first found Susan's Place, so I'm not being creepy or stalky or dangerous).

Luckily I only have a 7 and a half to 8 man's shoe size and small hands. Yay! But my hands are calloused at the moment. Boo! Additionally I'm blessed by only being 5'9" tall. Yay!

I work in the CBD and I watch women constantly so that is no problem, apart from it driving me batty because I want so badly to be amidst them, as one of them. But that will have to wait until I have saved enough money for my transition's surgeries (SRS and FFS) which should be by around Oct/Nov. Until then low dose HRT and being careful with my facial electrolysis will have to do me. I just hope I can keep this job for the more every day reasons too because it is paying well and I really do not need an interruption to my savings schedule which would, in turn, interrupt my complete and successful transition.

Finally I get on very well with my Gender Centre counseller, who has helped me immensely. She has helped me organise for Medicare to straighten my broken nose and has given me the names of various INCREDIBLY helpful medicos including Drs. Santos, Toohey, Hayes and Suporn so I imagine some help with informing me of some "factoids" re femininity should be okay.

Grazi, grazi mille,
ciao la mie sorelle,
xoxo,
Roxanne.

[roxie rudi]

Ooops! Please note that I was only referring to saving for the surgeries by the above mentioned dates and NOT undertaking them so soon and furthermore I should be fine if I can simply keep my job.

Bye again.