Being yelled at for posting a thank you to Sweetie for 35 years of marriage (as of today) and telling her how much I love her and always will.
I deleted the post after that.
Follow-up:
The day got progressively worse. Sweetie told me this wasn't a marriage, that I'm not transgender, that my clothes are a slap in the face to her, that I've been unwilling to compromise,and that I had no consideration for her feelings at all. Only the marriage part is true and that only because she pushed me away in terms of physical affection, no hugs or kisses for example.
We had to go to court to face the possibility of eviction. We were able to come to an agreement with the lawyer. After that her mood changed entirely and she was quite pleasant to me, even making plans for the short vacation we have planned for a few weeks from now.
This is a pattern with her, bringing up everything that's bothered her when she's under other stress and insisting that her view is the only valid one and that there are no mitigating circumstances.
I'm not looking for suggestions. Divorcing her would accomplish nothing and she won't see a therapist. Nor will she listen to reason. Honestly, most of the time she is pleasant, loving and supportive.
And I sound like every other abused spouse in the history of the world.
One last thing, as of now 9% of this thread is me whining or someone being nice to me commiserating over my whining. I think that it's time I ceased to post in this thread except to encourage others. Posting for myself is accomplishing nothing.
