Crazy?

[DawnOday]

I do this for personal pleasure. Is it wrong that I do not want a sexual relationship with a man? Like most women I wish to dress for other women, not for men. Could the Spiro I've been taking in low doses for 20 years cause this lack of longing. I know it killed my sex drive and gave me man boobs which I use to full effect when dressed. But how I dress in my room and how I dress in public would be much different. In my room, I'm a sexy thing and like to take it to extremes. But not drag. In my opinion that would be an affront to women.

[Laura_7]

This could help you :
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,188309.msg1674885.html#msg1674885

and this:
http://www.gires.org.uk/assets/DOH-Assets/pdf/doh-transgender-experiences.pdf

Its not crazy.
Transgender peole usually have a higher rate of gay or bi people than the average.
And its completely ok.


You might talk to a gender therapist to help you find out what you want and what you would like to do.


hugs

[barbie]

I do this for personal pleasure. Is it wrong that I do not want a sexual relationship with a man? Like most women I wish to dress for other women, not for men. Could the Spiro I've been taking in low doses for 20 years cause this lack of longing. I know it killed my sex drive and gave me man boobs which I use to full effect when dressed. But how I dress in my room and how I dress in public would be much different. In my room, I'm a sexy thing and like to take it to extremes. But not drag. In my opinion that would be an affront to women.

It is quite normal and very common among m2f transgender.

barbie~~

[Hope springs]

Im a little confused. You want to know if its wrong you dont want men sexually? No.
Do you consider yourself a female? Then that makes you a lesbian. Plenty of those around. Do you consider yourself male? Then you would be hetero. Plenty of those around too. Point is whatever gender you are, and however you choose to present, your orientation usually doesnt change. So whichever gender into, go with that regardless of how you dress

[DawnOday]

While crossdressing for 40 years I never really tried to understand the underlying   ramifications. Because it was always secret.  I would dress for myself. My friend Dee has given me the opportunity to come out, have fun, and be myself. I am taking her up on the offer. I know what a prick I was as a man with the cat calls etc. I was just positing what a drag it would be to be hit on, especially the first time out. I really have a lot to learn and a short time on earth to learn it.  I hate labels.    xo Dawn

[diane 2606]

Gender identity and sexual orientation are not the same thing. They never were, never will be. You are emotionally/sexually attracted to who you're attracted. The fact that you do so as a member of the sex other than the one you were assigned at birth is irrelevant.

I spent my entire life attracted to women. As I was approaching SRS I realized I might have some choices to make. It didn't take long. I'm attracted to women. My partner and I, a cis lesbian who I met a year after surgery, will have been together for 20 years next month.

The moral: Social expectations are NOT the boss of you.

[Kerry30Den]

Life is way too short to get hung up on labels.  Seems like you know who you are attracted to, and you know how you like to dress.  That's changing (with Dee's help it seems) but that doesn't mean anything else has to change too.

When I was a kid who snuck into Mom's and Grandma's things in stolen moments I knew I was different. Sadly trashy talk shows showed me a crazy media infused view of what being TG meant.  I remember knowing in 4th grade that I never wanted to stop dressing... and thought that if I was going to dress that way I guess I had to like guys.  I'd look at a cute girl and feel one way, look at an attractive guy that the girls swooned over and feel nothing.  I figured it out pretty early I was into girls as well as girls clothes.

Sure I was confused about why I wanted to dress and what that meant, but my love of women has never been in question for me.