Yeah, don't mistake the feelings for misogyny because more often than not they're not.
If you were locked in a room 24 hours of every day for years and wanted to be let out, chances are you'd come to hate that room and everything in it. Possibly locked rooms in general by association. In a normal situation, you'd probably not hate any room or ever give one a bad thought. Get let out of that room eventually and you'll be able to see it for what it is, a room, that isn't your prison.
My body is like that room and I hate it. But I know when I can change that situation I won't have any reason to direct my disgust at anything feminine. If anything as time passes and I get further and further away from that which is feminine myself, I appreciate and respect it in others more.
No matter what people say it's clear that there is a gender in the mind of people, it's not chosen, it's not a social construct that can be un-constructed by talking about it to yourself and happily lived with, and it's important to a person's self esteem to be treated appropriately. In some ways modern thinking about gender has made it more difficult to realize this fact. This idea that everyone wants to be treated according to these ideas is actually harmful.
