Pre-op: Ugh, another "dream"

[DiamondBladee]

My journey towards obtaining T-blockers is slowly advancing, but until then all I can do is try to make myself more comfortable.  So here's an issue that bothers me.

Ejaculation.  I'm not even gonna repeat it.  Regardless of how uninterested I am in sex, it still occurs at night every once in a while.  I don't have any dreams that I can imagine would trigger this, but it happens.  I'm sure someone here can relate on this; waking up to such event is actually beyond discomforting and really puts me in a bad mood for the night and even the next day.

Is there any real way to avoid them?  Has anyone found a clever way to cope?  I've tried a variety of things but they still come at some point, whether that be in 2 weeks or 2 months.  It doesn't make much sense to me because I am personally extremely asexual...  But I suppose the body has gotta do what the body has gotta do.  It would be nice to know if there were any control I could have over it.  It might help the next 6-12 months be more livable.

Sorry for the fairly awkward and possibly triggering topic,

    Winter xoxoxo (age 15)

[Ms Grace]

It is a natural biological process, if that helps. Your body is just doing its thing unaware the driver would prefer a much different chassis. Try avoiding sleeping on your back or stomach, these are the two positions where erections (and then ejaculation) are most likely to occur during sleep. If you don't already, try sleeping with underpants on under your PJs, being commando at night can more easily lead to subconscious stimulation and therefore erections. And as Homer Simpson once famously said... "Think unsexy thoughts, think unsexy thoughts"...

[Tessa James]

I must applaud your honesty about a such sensitive personal issue.  I think you are right about what your body is doing without your conscious desire or consent.  Dreams, including so called "wet" dreams are considered by some to be rehearsal for the future or integration of past events.   

You reminded me of my own terrible discomfort when it was happening to me.  I was clueless and alarmed and when I found out more it totally wrecked my secret belief that the mysteries of puberty would allow me to magically become a girl like all the rest.  That was long ago when just about nobody talked about sex and my ignorance was complete.   

What we now know is that this a normal part of a cisgender persons life.  For us it is another proof that testosterone is wrecking our party dreams of being a girl.  While I know of no way to stop it I hope you will give yourself a pat on the back for planning openly to deal with it as soon as possible.  Consider it an annoying bodily function like farting or having to wipe your butt.  At least you see the methods to eventually put it away for good.  Hang in there.

[DiamondBladee]

It is a natural biological process, if that helps. Your body is just doing its thing unaware the driver would prefer a much different chassis. Try avoiding sleeping on your back or stomach, these are the two positions where erections (and then ejaculation) are most likely to occur during sleep. If you don't already, try sleeping with underpants on under your PJs, being commando at night can more easily lead to subconscious stimulation and therefore erections. And as Homer Simpson once famously said... "Think unsexy thoughts, think unsexy thoughts"...

Oh my, sleeping on my belly isn't even comfortable in my opinion!  I usually curl up in fetal position cuddling a pillow (yes, I'm a big baby inside xoxo).

I don't commando because...  I mean, its almost self explanatory.  I have some of the softest sleep bottoms, which for some reason make me most aware of what's going on down there.  Didn't like that feeling, so I always have underwear on

Haha, on the Simpsons thought I really don't even know what I'd consider sexy myself.  I'm hardly sexual at all, and I've thought about sexuality due to it.  As pre-op I'm pretty asexual, but things could open up a little post-op.  A have a little feeling in my side that tells me it wont open super far though; maybe I can best describe it as demisexuality, if anyone knows what that is.  Honestly sexuality is on the bottom of my priority list.  Sex doesn't interest me right now so I only really think about it while making a crude joke at my boyfriend (haha we do that a lot, were both trans* and asexual so its harmless ).  Just a random thought.



Its an unavoidable bodily process, like a fart yes.  But there's ways to mask up a fart of course.  Advice like above is what I'm looking for.  Its not urgent though, I mean if I had an incident recently it's probably not going to happen again until this thread dies out.



EDIT:  I thought about it and since the beginning of puberty its almost as if they're becoming less frequent??  I wonder if the mind has something to do with this as well??  I wouldn't be surprised...  If people can consciously use their minds to do it, surely they can subconsciously use their minds to /not/ do it...?

[KarynMcD]

It is a natural biological process, if that helps.

If it helps, women have them too.
http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/do-women-have-wet-dreams-too

[Dena]

Wet dreams for me were more common in my early teens but I grew older, I had fewer of them. The funny thing is 33 years post surgical with some of the hardware missing, I can still get them. They are far fewer because my T levels are pretty rock bottom but they can still happen.

[DiamondBladee]

If it helps, women have them too.
http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/do-women-have-wet-dreams-too

Yeah I knew that, its just disrupting regardless.  Funny that people don't know that about women though.  Some people dont know anything...  Lol