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Started by Tommi, February 19, 2016, 03:58:45 PM

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Tommi

My situation has changed lately, which is why I haven't been on much.

My job changed, where I work from home full time, and while that might sound awesome (and it is in someways) I am not alone most days, and therefore unable to really express myself, as my wife doesn't want to see it, and doesn't want my 3 yr old to see.  So no bras or breastforms, unless everyone is out of the house.

It's quite frustrating, especially as she is arguing against me taking the herbal pills I was taking, and wants me to go to the doctor, but funds being what they are, she's not in a hurry for me to make an appt.  She also asked me if I felt anything from the herbals, and why would I want to grow boobs anyway?

I'm not hiding anything from her anymore, which is good, but it has turned into a bit of a sore point.  She has this view that trans women aren't "real" women since we don't have to deal with periods, etc.  That we just want the fun stuff, and none of the miserable parts.  She also makes it quite clear she doesn't trust me, due to hiding things from her, Like the bras, breastforms and herbals. 

Overall, it's very frustrating.  I'm going to go ahead and talk to my Dr about hormones, and see what I need to do to move forward, although I'm sure it's really not what she wants from me.
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stephaniec

Well, from what you have said , be prepared for your wife to go against this. I'd say you really need to see a therapist to guide you through .
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warlockmaker

We tend to be selfish once we have decided that we are TGs.  We forget that our wives married a male and this is very difficult to accept. Honestly, in most cases continuing in a relationship will need both sides to understand. Have you suggested seeing a therapist together.

As for your young daughter ....as my 14 year old said when I told her ...this is 2016 not the dark ages. Again a good gender therapist can help explain, to your wife, how it is easy for young ones to accept ...especially in this generation..

Be patient but explain you need to be who you are...
When we first start our journey the perception and moral values all dramatically change in wonderment. As we evolve further it all becomes normal again but the journey has changed us forever.

SRS January 21st,  2558 (Buddhist calander), 2015
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Tommi

Today I actually got some time to dress up, do some makeup and be me.   ;D
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