During 'dirty talk' with your partner, do you enjoy being called a >-bleeped-<?

[Lara13]

Hi all,

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS A QUESTION TO THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY LIVING FULL TIME AS FEMALES SO NO CD'S ETC.

So I know the title looks crazy. A little about me- I am a young mtf girl of 28. I transitioned very young in life and fully pass (having had bf's who didn't even know I was ts). With this in mind, you can imagine how I would feel disgusted at someone calling me a derogatory name. However, recently (only the last few months) I seem to be having this wild change when it comes to the bedroom.
Usually my BF and I will talk about me as a fully functional female (vagina etc) even though I am non-op for health reasons. Recently, we started talking about me with what I have between my legs (in a sexual way) and both found it really hot. However, as things have developed, I have started getting turned on by being called foul words etc (it should be noted that I am submissive and like being dominated and so the degrading thing does it for me!)
The only issue is, after sex- I feel low, like I have compromised who I am and feel like I must be wrong in some way.
So-
I wanted to ask-
A: Is this at all normal!?
B: Does anyone else like being called these names in bed?

Thank you so much for your time and help girls
Lara x

[Oliviah]

I wouldn't worry.  We all like a little humiliation and being submissive sometimes.  Why do you think 50 shades of gray is so popular?

[Lara13]

Thank you, and I do agree- it's just that words like 'that' are surely everything a girl like me is meant to be against. I really just want to know if other trans girls out there have found those terms a turn on. Up until now I've always just been called 'girl' 'tart' etc haha

[Oliviah]

That word doesn't bother me at all.  It is who is using it as why.  I can tell when it is being used as a weapon vs affection.  Just like I can tell if I am misgendered by accident vs to demean.

[RobynD]

I never really have that word used on me but others appropriate to our intimate relationship. I will sometimes get called "girlfriend" by my wife and it always makes me smile, not that it is un-correct term, but ten years ago she would have never said that.

Probably the closest one we use to a fetishy word is "sissy". Not really accurate for me but it works in the right situations.

[JLT1]

I want to say "Welcome to Susan's!"  Good first question. 

Sometimes, things happen during love making that makes us feel uncomfortable afterwards.  It may be anything from removing inhibitions to various acts to names and responses that we later feel guilty or uneasy with.  We have to decide what we do about that. It's not unusual at all.

If it keeps happening or if you keep feeling bad or if it leads to other things that are even more uncomfortable, stop.

Nothing wrong with where you are at.  It's part of self discovery.  Just make sure that your partner still respects you.

Hugs

Jen
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[Devlyn]

Hi all,

PLEASE NOTE THIS IS A QUESTION TO THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY LIVING FULL TIME AS FEMALES SO NO CD'S ETC.

I'm a 24/7 crossdresser, so I thought I'd answer.    Besides, anyone can post to any thread here.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Oliviah]

I'm a 24/7 crossdresser, so I thought I'd answer.    Besides, anyone can post to any thread here.

Hugs, Devlyn

What is a 24/7 cross dresser?

[Devlyn]

Someone who presents exclusively as a woman but doesn't identify as a woman.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Lara13]

Thanks for the welcome JLT1 I've lived my life in stealth so it's actually really nice to be chatting to some girls who might have to face the same issues I do along the way.

Thanks to everyone else for the replies. If anyone else has an opinion I'd be interested to hear it

[Mariah]

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