So you dress in womens clothes?

[kaitylynn]

A friend asks me what seems an innocent question...

Friend: So, do you ever dress up in women's clothes?

Me: Let's look at that for a moment...I am Kaity, correct?

Friend: Yes, you are.

Me: And I am a woman, trans or not...it is how I identify?

Friend: Yes.

Me: And I wear clothes?

Friend: Yes, you do not go around naked that I know of.

Me: So, I am Kaity, identify as woman and I wear clothes?

Friend: Yes, all of that.

Me: Okay, then anything I am wearing is clothing appropriate to Kaity and therefor must be women's clothes.

Friend: Fawker!

This is sort of funny, but it is also serious because it illustrates how a lot of CIS people (and trans folk too) view non-bainary passing trans individuals.  It makes me wonder if the world is truly ready to drop the binary bull and move on to better places.  I am slowly getting to a tipping point to "the middle ground" while therapy, practice and hormones work their magic.  Will I eventually "pass"?  I pass as myself every moment I am alive, so yeah...I do and I will.  I am a woman, have been since I can remember, but society is still hung up on what genitals are between the legs to identify who a person is.

Anyway, I am just putting this out there.  No real intent other than to relay a very recent experience.  I may never wear a dress, might never get makeup artistry down or have surgeries to alter or invert...but that does not preclude identifying by the way I feel and see myself.  I do not worry about passing, do not worry too much about what others think of me...unless they are about to cause me harm and then I do.

The main thing, live life.  Our journey through time is precious and it is individual.  Live it, truthfully and with love of self.  We are special, all of us and time is finite.  Do not waste too much of it worrying...learn your self and know yourself.

[Amy413]

The awareness of much of human society is still trapped deep in the lower dimensions.
They are just plain blind to many things.

The causes are tightly tangled into the ways everyone does things.
Many religions would have to change.

Even in Alcoholics Anonymous, which I left, is only LGB......not really "T" friendly.

[Devlyn]

Well, if a woman buys her clothes in the Men's section, they may be a woman's clothes, but they're Men's fashion, right? 

I'm non-binary, too. I identify as genderfluid or bi-gender. My presentation is all girl. We certainly offer a lot for the binary world to think about. 

"Will I eventually "pass"?  I pass as myself every moment I am alive, so yeah...I do and I will."

+1 for that!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Amy413]

On the "binary" thinking part.
We have two eyes, two hemispheres to our brain.
Most creatures do.
I'm afraid we might be stuck with duality in the universe.
Even our galaxy is a barred spiral, which indicates the presence of two supermassive black holes really, (but I don't have the proper institutional science documentation to prove that one).

It's all binary.
yin/yang

But they flow together and one contains the other.
The are no hard boundaries in the universe.

I, also am in a fluid state.

[RobynD]

Some asked that last year to me and i replied  "My clothes are mine, what other women are you talking about? "

It really is hard for the rank and file to understand, it is changing to the positive though.

I went to the gym this morning, dressed in yoga pants, pink and black yoga shoes, a plain T, no makeup and my hair was slicked back. Would you call that femme? I dunno but i was getting some puzzled looks and I clearly have breasts. I think people just do not see enough of us to get their mind around it.

[Amy413]

Some asked that last year to me and i replied  "My clothes are mine, what other women are you talking about? "

It really is hard for the rank and file to understand, it is changing to the positive though.

I went to the gym this morning, dressed in yoga pants, pink and black yoga shoes, a plain T, no makeup and my hair was slicked back. Would you call that femme? I dunno but i was getting some puzzled looks and I clearly have breasts. I think people just do not see enough of us to get their mind around it.

I guess breasts really confuse a lot of people.
I don't know how much you weigh. But if someone is a healthy weight (you do yoga) and they have bumps on the chest, that's not because of being overweight. Hormones put them there, female ones.
(they all must have been sleeping in HS health class, basic anatomy folks)

I don't think they CAN get their mind around it, they are simpletons.