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[FionaRain]

Hi Everyone, I am Fiona!

  I'm 31 years old, and am a trans woman.  I am married with a baby girl, and have finally admitted out loud to my wife (and myself in all honesty) about my feelings of being born into the wrong body.  It adds a lot of difficulty and strange feelings as I'm sure some of you know.  But I am hoping to be able to figure it all out with minimal harm done to anyone, of course.

  I am very new to this journey being in the open, though I have been crossdressing in private and hiding myself for as long as I can remember. 

  I'm not quite sure how long this will take, or what/how many umm... compromises? My family and I will have to make to make this work.  But I have been looking through the forums a little, and feel like there is a lot of great information to help us.

Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and I look forward to all the information and conversations here.

[Tasha_]

Hi Fiona, I'm 35, and I  the same predicament.... I can only hope your wife is as supportive e as mine. I look forward to seeing g you around on here!!

[Mariah]

Hi Fiona and welcome to Susan's. Congrats on just starting your journey and sharing things with your spouse. We never know how it will affect are significant others. The length can very from less than a couple years to many, but everyone's journey and experience is different. I hope your able to get the balance you need while at same time without anyone getting hurt. It's a balance I strive for in my relationship with my boyfriend. For me that ha meant including and sharing my journey with him so he can feel he is part of what is going on in regards to things. Relationships can survive a transition and I hope yours is one of those. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

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[amberwaves]

Hi Fiona,

I'm Amber.  I too have small children and recently came out to my wife.  It can very hard to navigate the way through this, but keep at it.  The best thing is to maintain open communication with your wife.  Depending on how she takes things she can be quite the ally.  As far as kids, they are remarkably resilient when they are young.  I wore a nice blouse and some women's jeans in front of my two young girls the other day for the first time.  The only comment was from the oldest (5 yo), "dad, you look ridiculous." "Why do I look ridiculous?" "Because you look like a girl.". After that everything was normal.

[V M]

Hi Fiona 

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

[gennee]

Hello and welcome to Susan's, Fiona.

[FionaRain]

Hi Fiona, I'm 35, and I  the same predicament.... I can only hope your wife is as supportive e as mine. I look forward to seeing g you around on here!!

Hello Tasha   I am glad to hear that your wife is supportive in your transition.. I am sure that makes things very much easier (as much as they can be )  Thank you for the welcome!

[FionaRain]

Hi Fiona and welcome to Susan's. Congrats on just starting your journey and sharing things with your spouse. We never know how it will affect are significant others. The length can very from less than a couple years to many, but everyone's journey and experience is different. I hope your able to get the balance you need while at same time without anyone getting hurt. It's a balance I strive for in my relationship with my boyfriend. For me that ha meant including and sharing my journey with him so he can feel he is part of what is going on in regards to things. Relationships can survive a transition and I hope yours is one of those. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

Hello Mariah! Thank you for the Welcome!  It is a frightening and exciting time both.  I'm not 100% sure how my wife is taking it, but we seem to be holding up so far.  I would love to share it all with her, but I do understand she will need her time to take it all in.

[FionaRain]

Hi Fiona,

I'm Amber.  I too have small children and recently came out to my wife.  It can very hard to navigate the way through this, but keep at it.  The best thing is to maintain open communication with your wife.  Depending on how she takes things she can be quite the ally.  As far as kids, they are remarkably resilient when they are young.  I wore a nice blouse and some women's jeans in front of my two young girls the other day for the first time.  The only comment was from the oldest (5 yo), "dad, you look ridiculous." "Why do I look ridiculous?" "Because you look like a girl.". After that everything was normal.

Hi Amber!  I can't even imagine if my daughter was old enough to understand a difference.  One of my biggest fears is how this will affect her :-/  But she is only 8 months old at this point.  As of now my wife says she it will be ok, ad we will work it out.  I hope that is the case, and that it doesn't prove too much for us.  She did buy me the first pair of panties I've ever worn in front of anyone... so she is trying.

[FionaRain]

Hi Fiona 

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

Hi V M

[FionaRain]

Hello and welcome to Susan's, Fiona.

Hello Gennee!  thank you

[Tasha_]

As far as compromises go, there are many on all sides in a family. I was lucky that my daughter was raised to be accepting of all kinds of people. My son is only three, so I worry about him getting into school and getting made fun of because his dad is... We'll.... Me.... But if your wife has been understanding then I am happy for you because if it were not for my wife I could not have made it this far. She has been such a wonderful help, it's amazing. I didn't even know how deep my confusion went until she helped me through it. Now, after about a year of this, she is a little uncomfortable with my stuffed bra still, but she still helps me pick them out. I am so lucky to have married a woman that will stick with me through my transition into whatever I am going to be. I'm not sure yet if I am going to have dual personas per se, or if I am going to completely transition into womanhood. Someday soon, I am going to talk to her about a name... Tasha was the only one I could think of on my own that I liked... My wife will probably be able to do better.

Sorry, I tend to ramble a lot, I haven't had a lot of co cessation about this with anyone but her and now it just keeps flooding out.

What I meant to get at is to be as patient with bet acceptance as you expect bet to be with your transition, and hopefully she will be your saving grace I  coming to fully understand and embrace... And finally finish whatever transition you need. I hope the best for you, and when we have the status to personal message, I would like to keep in touch for sure.

Hope to talk soon,

Tasha

PS.. all who have responded here are wonderful, I wish I would have found this place sooner!!!!

[amberwaves]

Having an accepting wife is awesome.  Just remember that this journey we are on doesn't have the same end point for everyone.  Make sure the two of you come to terms and agree on the destination.

Tasha is a fine name.  I chose Amber Michelle without my wife, but she is okay with it.  Amber just stuck with me from the first time I looked into a mirror fully dressed 5 years ago.  Man, I remember the long process of elimination trying to pick a name for our second daughter. Couldn't imagine doing it for myself.

[Tasha_]

Lol... Ya, but I'm not sure if it really fits... And I honestly think she can do better....

I realized from a book series I read once that the destination  is not always the important thing.... It's the journey that gets us there. And in our situations I feel like it rings more true than ever. It doesn't matter where we end up, as long as we are happy and accepted, and accept ourselves!!!