Relationship confusion?

[daniel6666]

I'm in the process of coming out to friends as gay ftm after seeing a gender therapist for a while and my family knowing. I've come out to maybe 2 or 3 so far, but one of my closest friends, a man, has admitted feelings for me. I'm not out to him yet, and the feelings are mutual, but I don't want him to find out and then withdraw because he is genuinely a good friend who I don't want to lose - even if nothing romantic was to come of it. I also don't want to cause him a sexuality crisis because I've been presenting as stereotypically male in terms of appearance, clothing, and mannerisms. I'm fairy certain he's a straight man but I am completely stuck on what to do. I have no idea if he has ideas about my gender identity, or what gender he sees me as. He's the next person I want to come out to, but I don't want to ruin the friendship we've got. Everything's a mess and I have no idea what to do basically.

[cindianna_jones]

If he is a good friend, he will remain a good friend. On the other hand, is it truly necessary to come out to everyone? I don't think it is. Even though I've come out publicly, I find that most of my acquaintances still don't know. And I'll probably never tell them directly. They can figure it out from my FB page if they are inclined to do so.

I didn't go through my transition to be recognized by society as a trans person. I did it to be treated and recognized as a female. Pure and simple. Things are a lot more open these days so I've relaxed a bit about the whole thing. But I don't make a point to tell people. I'll save that for when I start having feelings of love fore someone, if that ever happens again. I'm not putting my life on hold for that.

Relax. You'll know when the time is right, if it ever happens.

Chin up!
Cindi