My Gatekeeper appointment [NHS]

[Jestwacked]

So I had my gatekeeper appointment today was Dr. Nahil Jamil at St Cadocs south wales and it went really well!

I basically went in, we both sat down and she simply said ''So, tell me about it'', I talked for about 10 minutes going through various things in my life which she wrote alot down on.

Then she asked me questions like

What sexuality are you, to which I answered Bisexual,

Have you had any sexual relationships, to which I answered, I have had sexual contact with both sexes but no intercourse.

These were all straight forward to answer then she mentioned about looks which we had a bit of a back and forth exchange on.

I could see her looking at my clothes and my appearance and she mentioned it, I stated it was what I was comfortable with and that I had thought about dressing up but I wanted to appear natural, this look is how I would look even fully transitioned, perhaps though slightly more feminine.

Then she made a bit of an odd comment like ''Well, yes that is totally fine, but obviously you wouldn't walk out the door now and people would think you were a woman''. Now I don't care that much about passing, which I explained again, because for me it's deeper than just the looks though obviously at the end of treatment I would hope to pass. But I thought it was almost a bit of a pointless statement, I know that I don't pass, and why is there especially among psychiatrists this rigid idea of what a female is meant to look like?

Either way. I have been referred onto London GIC with a long waiting list (which is fine) and she has made the reference for funding, so happy days 

[Mariah]

Sorry that your stuck with a long waiting period, but sounds like your appointment went reasonably well otherwise. Sorry that she made the remark in regards to passing. It shouldn't matter to them as long as we are getting the help we need. Hugs
Mariah

[Jestwacked]

Sorry that your stuck with a long waiting period, but sounds like your appointment went reasonably well otherwise. Sorry that she made the remark in regards to passing. It shouldn't matter to them as long as we are getting the help we need. Hugs
Mariah

Oh it barely phased me to be honest with you, the waiting time was expected, and i've heard comments like that a few times x)

[Peep]

Then she made a bit of an odd comment like ''Well, yes that is totally fine, but obviously you wouldn't walk out the door now and people would think you were a woman''. Now I don't care that much about passing, which I explained again, because for me it's deeper than just the looks though obviously at the end of treatment I would hope to pass. But I thought it was almost a bit of a pointless statement, I know that I don't pass, and why is there especially among psychiatrists this rigid idea of what a female is meant to look like?

Yeah I had that from a psychologist who said she expected me to be taller + broader and I'm just like :| soz i forgot about the whole "remember not to stop growing" thing. She also told me that I'm to "pretty" to pass for male. I mean i just spent an hour telling you that I don't pass and that it distresses me but good to know that i don't pass thanks

i think people just don't always think things through before they say them, no matter how professional they are supposed to be :/