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Started by Shakku, March 01, 2016, 04:51:49 AM

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Shakku

Hi all!

I'm not quite sure if this is the place to post this, I hope it is =).
I'm AMAB and I just recently found out that I'm, in fact, female. There's a lot in my chest and in my head right now, I'm really new to all of this (despite the little voice in my head which has been telling me since 24 years), I'm quite confused with my emotions and with my body, I do feel different, I do want my body to change, fast, but I've got no idea where to begin with as I'm living in Norway and quite penniless. Not to mention I'm 1m83 (sorry, not used to use feet and inches =S) and EU 44 for shoes...

I don't want to feel pitiful to any of you, I'm just in need of advices... Safe professionals would be an awesome start (in Oslo). I'll dig in the forum, but right now, even though I recognise myself in many of your awesome and moving stories, I need to be able to talk to people, and people talking to me. Is it being selfish?...

Shakku
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Alice Rogers

Hi Shakku, welcome to Susan's! This place is a wonderful support for anyone with questions!

It seems to me that your first port of call should be your doctor, I am making some assumptions here about Norwegian procedures, but here in the UK the Gender Clinic is the place to talk to and to see them you need a referral from your doctor.

Not selfish at all honey, we all need help, advice and sometimes just a hug.

Alice

"I would rather be ashes than dust!
I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dry-rot.
I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.
The function of man is to live, not to exist.
I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them.
I shall use my time." Jack London
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DiamondBladee

Welcome to Susan's :) You're 6 feet exactly, by the way, no inches ❤

Don't feel selfish, lets start here.  The first steps is to listen to the voice in your head and somehow come to an entirely confident point where you're ready to begin a physical transition, if that's what you end up wanting for absolute certain.  Sorting out any scattered thoughts is what you need to do.  It's totally normal to have a lot of stuff going though your head.  Any thought or question is valid, and that's what were here for.  To listen and give back.

It would also help to to find a therapist to talk to, and eventually one that can send you off to an endocrinologist would help too.  But if you find even just a typical therapist that happens to have a background of accepting transfolk, it can help to talk to one even if they don't specialize :)

If you're lacking money, maybe you can go into more depth about that in a new thread?  Many of us (or I at least) are unfamiliar with Norwegian economics and insurance and whatnot.  I don't even remember if Norway is part of the EU or if it's excluded (embarrassed moment).

Many *hugs*

All and all, maybe this site here is a good outlet for you xoxoxo
~ Ana Maria
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Shakku

Hi!

QuoteIt seems to me that your first port of call should be your doctor, I am making some assumptions here about Norwegian procedures, but here in the UK the Gender Clinic is the place to talk to and to see them you need a referral from your doctor.

Thank you for your suggestion Alice! Actually, I just arrived in Norway in January and I haven't any doctor yet, I think it would be the occasion to find someone who is trans friendly? Also, I don't know how the system works as I'm a foreigner...

QuoteDon't feel selfish, lets start here.  The first steps is to listen to the voice in your head and somehow come to an entirely confident point where you're ready to begin a physical transition, if that's what you end up wanting for absolute certain.  Sorting out any scattered thoughts is what you need to do.  It's totally normal to have a lot of stuff going though your head.  Any thought or question is valid, and that's what were here for.  To listen and give back.

Yeah, I kinda see what you mean. My brain has been working full-time, full speed since the last couple days and it's really amazing how things change about the way I percieve myself and the world.
I mean, I never liked mirrors and tended to avoid them, ok, no big deal. Now, when I look in the mirror, I see a girl in a man disguise -pretty realistic one!-. That's both confusing and comforting. That must sound quite funny, isn't it?

QuoteIt would also help to to find a therapist to talk to, and eventually one that can send you off to an endocrinologist would help too.  But if you find even just a typical therapist that happens to have a background of accepting transfolk, it can help to talk to one even if they don't specialize :)

This is where my fear resides. From what I found online, the way to getting hormones and even care is quite complicated in Norway. I came to understand that one can't have hormones before 1-2 years (at least!) and I can't help but to think of my "biological clock" which says Hey! You're already 24 are you? Oh, I mean 24 and a half! See ou in five minutes! Do you know what I mean? =(
I've never been to a therapist before, what should I expect? Does it cost anything?

QuoteIf you're lacking money, maybe you can go into more depth about that in a new thread?  Many of us (or I at least) are unfamiliar with Norwegian economics and insurance and whatnot.  I don't even remember if Norway is part of the EU or if it's excluded (embarrassed moment).

Many *hugs*

Oh, there is a thread like that? Waw, I really need to dig the forum some more! - Actually, do you have some lead to finding this thread? >.> -

Well, don't worry, I'm confused about Norway too, I'll look it up for both of us ...*processing* Sooo, Norway is not in the EU (I learn that) but is part of the EEA and Schengen which makes things easier for foreign European people.

*Hugs back* Thank you a bunch, I really need those =)
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DiamondBladee

Oh no, I was suggesting making a new thread (not due which board it would go under) to help research how it would all go in Norway.

You can always be your own endocrinologist, but I SERIOUSLY advise against it.  It may be risky, and it usually make it difficult for anyone to help you.
~ Ana Maria
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