Welcome to Susan's Place. AS you are aware, this is a special place on the web where we can be who we are or want to be.
Please, ask any question you have because only then can you understand everything and by understanding you can accept things. The only foolish question I was told, was the one that was never asked. By asking, we learn.
Both of you are in for a rough time regarding transition, but believe me, it actually does get easier as time passes.
I would like to wish you both all the best of luck and nothing but good wishes for the future.
Love,
Clare