Frustration/Acceptence

[Midnightstar]

There is something iv'e never understood with my family and it's why do they say they accept me when finding out i'm transgender but proceed to not look into things or ask me what i would prefer to be treated like or called? Yet when i ask them to change something suddenly in their eyes the worlds either ending or it's to frustrating and hard. I guess i don't understand this: How is it "Acceptance" if the people aren't trying
or listening? Or at one little thing they don't get they go back to their old ways. I understand things take time i really do, but i just don't get how they say they have a heart and then ignore you and say i love you....contradicting much? I'm frustrated sorry, and venting. (This sounded like this came out at others, but in my mind it's like i was upset at the jerk faces in the world just to clear that up) I had the same struggle of understanding this same concept when i was realizing  i was a atheist and people kept saying they still loved me but god would help me or something contradicting like that.

[Elis]

I think it's because many people don't realise how important it is to your mental well being to not be misgendered or to not have your gender respected. They've always been comfortable being the gender they were assigned so how could they know how gender dysphoria feels. My dad's the same way in that he ignores me being trans completely. For many trans people we just have to suck it up until we look cis normative; so it becomes ridiculous for family to misgender us.

[KarlMars]

I am a believer in Jesus Christ and I feel like it's a challenge he gave me because I know what my immortal body looks like in Heaven and I'm trying to achieve that on Earth.

Your family is more supportive than mine. They just don't understand. No cis person could understand. My family will continue to misgender me and call me by my female birth name. I hope once I get on T and start to look like a male they will start calling me by my male name and stop treating me like a female. My family is too overprotective.

[suzifrommd]

There is something iv'e never understood with my family and it's why do they say they accept me when finding out i'm transgender but proceed to not look into things or ask me what i would prefer to be treated like or called?

People get stuck in ways of thinking and interacting.

Stick to your guns. Correct them each and every time they say something that's not accepting. Ask them to apologize briefly whenever they make a mistake, so you know they at least care.

And look inside yourself for strength and patience, because you'll need both in large measure.

Hugs Midnightstar. Dealing with family is a challenge, but persistence pays off.

[Kylo]

People can often say "I love you" but mean it in the way they see fit, and not at all in the way that is best for you. "Loving" from some people can be a very selfish and conditional business.

Like a lot of cis people they probably have no idea why this is important to you because they cannot even feel anything about their gender - they're just attuned to it or happy in it. Probably never even thought about it until you brought it up.