As a trans person, you are going to have to do some things that take you out of your comfort zone. My biggest fear was being laughed at and ridiculed, but if I didn't move forward I would be stuck in the closet, and not able to get what I needed to be a happy and whole person, so ultimately my needs became more important than the fear of being laughed at and ridiculed, and I did what I wanted to do, and went where I wanted to go. And you can to, just go to the salon and tell the stylist what it is exactly you want, and ask for advice about what will work best for your face shape and skin tone; and if you have thinning hair ask for advice about that also. As long as you are friendly, and open about who you are and what you need, the stylist will probably go out of his or her way to help you.