Quote from: Alexthecat on March 19, 2016, 09:19:46 AM
I think you should ask her. It is a good thing to know why someone likes you and took interest in the first place.
She claims she doesn't like me romantically though, and we just hook up. That's what confuses me because if it's strictly 'physical' why wouldn't she just get a cisguy for that. I've asked her before and she just says you're a guy what's the difference. But she always talks to her girlfriends about how much she wants to do this and that, things she can't do with me for obvious reasons. Give BJs, etc.
Quote from: invisiblemonsters on March 19, 2016, 11:46:31 AM
i felt this way about the girl i'm into. i'm only 5'2" and she is 5'7" and gorgeous. guys hit on her all the time, and i definitely can see why because she's tall, smart, gorgeous, everything. nothing to not like or not find attractive but she's into me. i'm on t, and i have had top surgery but it's the lower parts where it's like okay so, why are you with me if you can have a cisguy? and it screwed with me for so long, mostly before i had surgery and was on T because i didn't feel 'manly" enough even though she always saw me as that, even with my binder on, etc. and she was still into me knowing i was pre t and pre top surgery and i just didn't get it. now though? now i know i can offer her anything a cisguy can, because why can't i? she isn't interested in only my genitals but me as a person. that's the ONLY difference between a cisguy and me. i can still give her kids, maybe not biologically both ours, but kids for sure. however lucky for me, we both don't want them. i get the wanting bio kids may be a deal breaker as you get older, etc. but if they want that, there's ways they can have a baby and i may not be able to contribute, but that wouldn't make me any less of a parent. as you transition more, go on hormones, whatever else if that is what you decide, i think that switch will flip for you too and you'll stop worrying about that stuff when hooking up with straight girls, or dating them, etc. because think of this, they're straight and they're into you which means they see you as a man, and not any less of a man compared to a cisguy. that's something to feel great about because someone is accepting you for you and seeing you as you want to be seen.
That's great, I'm happy for you. I know that I will still be good friends with this girl way down the line in my transition also, not sure what we will be then though lol. I would understand more if I was on T and had top surgery, but I have neither I'm pre everything. I don't even have a packer or anything of the sort for her to use and I obviously don't let her touch down there either. I also would understand more if she met me this way, but I've known her for years, back when I had long hair and was pretending to be a girl. I don't know, I guess my own thoughts are damaging me and you're right; she probably just sees me as a regular guy.
