Transitioning While in a Relationship

[Mitternacht]

Well, first of all, I did not expect to find myself in this position. I formally came out a few months ago and I am going to start T very soon, so my transition has definitely been started for quite a while. However, about a month after I really started to transition I met this guy, and fell head over heels. the kind where you feel like the two of you are just attached at the hip. He's supportive of me and everything, even helping me plan a workout to help raise my T levels (he is a personal trainer) but there is just one problem. He isn't gay.
He knew I was transitioning when we met but he said he still found me attractive. My worry is that this will fade very gradually and painfully as I transition in a more final way. He assures me this isn''t the case,  he says he's even started thinking some more feminine looking guys are attractive- he told his mother about me- all sorts of things. but a part of me still worries. Logically, he is confident in what he is saying. He even knew this was going to happen before we started dating. But a part of me still worries.
Anyone had an experience similar to this that has worked out? All I can ever find are stories where it doesn't.  any experience or stories at all would be appreciated, really.

thanks,
Sebastian

[2fish]

Only time will tell. If he's open minded than that's cool. I personally haven't started dating yet (I'm I to women). I'm also on t and post top surgery. I just haven't met anyone yet. If he's cool about it now and he changes his mind later than he's just not for you. It won't be the end of the world. There are others out there that will be more than happy to be with you. I think the key thing is communication.

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[WallabyWallop]

I agree that you just might have to see what happens in time. Make sure you're both being honest and respectful of each other, and ensure you're open in your communication.

My fiancee and I have been together for almost 5 years and only recently discovered our true sexual and gender identities. If we had come to this reliazation 5 years ago, I doubt we would have ever gotten together.

So yeah, just do the normal things you do in a relationship and be awesome to each other 

[kk]

I'm worrying about this also; I haven't come out to my girlfriend yet, and I worry she'll reject me if I transition to a male body.  But that's also something that I really don't have control over, so I've decided not to worry about it, and to take it a step at a time, but also to be open minded towards her feelings about it, and if she wants to leave, that's her right.  After all, she didn't sign up for a man when we started dating, haha.

I'd suggest to just take it a step at a time and to be open and honest with each other the whole way.

[Kylo]

There's a risk. Not only of him losing attraction, but perhaps of you losing attraction to him - sexuality is known to change and evolve sometimes on HRT.

But then again there's more to relationships than just sex and sexual attraction. The longer you are in a relationship the less important sex can become and the more important companionship can become.

I'm fairly sure the minute I start exhibiting stuff like stubble, my significant other is going to have problems. But they'll only be problems of sex, not of the rest of our relationship which after 10 years has a lot more to it than that. The only thing to do is just go bravely forward and see.