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[Angelyng357]

Hi, my name is... well, the one i currently go by is Duncan.  I am 22 years old, working my way towards MTF transition.  I have wanted something like this for such a long time, i would say about half my life, as that is how far back I can remember to.  It has been a constant battle in my head for so long, wanting to just stop having these feelings and being somewhat of a normal man.  But, I feel like i can't deal with that battle anymore, so I've decided to become the person I've wanted to be. 

I have not come out to anyone at all yet.  The only person who knows that i want to transition is my therapist, and it was her suggestion that I look for support from online groups first. I am a fairly shy person irl, but i have a bit more bravery online. I'm not ready to look for support groups or meet up groups near me yet, as this still feels surreal and I would like to finish up school before i start Transitioning. I do get the feeling that the majority of my current friends and my family will reject me for making this choice.  I don't think any one of them would support me through this whole process.  Of course, i can't actually know that until i come out to them, but that is probably a few months off, at least.

I'm here to see if there are any like minded people, or people around my age starting their own transition.  Also to ask questions, when i can think of them, to people who know a ton more about it than me.  maybe when i feel more comfortable with my choice, I will look for people in my area who are like me.

[Laura_7]

Hello and welcome again 

Well imo being active online can help to get used to the thought.
You might also look up some timelines on youtube, maybe that helps too to get used to a few ideas.

And maybe its possible to make a few friends online, there were a few people in the thread for young people.

Concerning coming out you might look how people stand in lgbt issues. That might at least give a small hint. In general its difficult to say how people react.
Usually if people are really close and its possible to talk about deep emotions with them its more likely they come around.

If not it might be an idea to work on that level ... to get a bit closer personally. If its possible at all ...


*hugs*

[Rachel_Christina]

Hey Girl
Im pretty much in the same boat,
Im 25 and just about to have my first meeting with the Endo
Your luck you're only 22!
The online community is a great help, it will put you at ease and you can advance you real life to when you gain so.e confidence. Meeting a therapist is so nerve racking but as soon as you start talking ther is no more fear!
Don't worry and stress your young, and lucky!
Family and Friends can be tough, but right now only one person matters, and thats you!
Take care, hugs, Christine

[Angelyng357]

I still have several steps before i'm to the point of seeing an Endo. I imagine months, at best.   though, thankfully, i think within this year i may be able to start.  you call me lucky for doing this younger, i think you are lucky for already starting. 

For now, Duncan.

[V M]

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[Rachel_Christina]

We are all lucky to be fair, the people that have never looked for help, those are the ones that need help!
How many people are still out ther trying be someone they are not!
Thank god for us we broke that cycle, and we can begin truly living

[kaitylynn]

Hello Duncan and welcome!  While I may be older, I can certainly see similarities in your feeling and timelines from when I was your age.

It might be worth considering finding a transgender based support group at an LGBTQ center near you to participate in.  Anonymous and supportive, making contact with brothers and sisters at and beyond your current point can be very encouraging.

[Angelyng357]

I find myself agreeing with you, Christine. And it might honestly be awhile before I look at a LGBT center to go to.  still working through things with my current therapist, and going to see a gender therapist seems like it's a ways off. I kind of need to either come out to my family or have my own insurance to cover the costs of a gender therapist.  not quite ready for either, hence the need to finish school.