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What aspect of life do you most look forward to after transition?

Started by KarlMars, April 04, 2016, 06:30:02 PM

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FrancisAnn

Just to enjoy one normal life with a closet full of nice clothes. Oh & men. I so look forward to dating again to fully enjoy a man...Everything really about being female....
mtF, mid 50's, always a girl since childhood, HRT (Spiro, E & Fin.) since 8-13. Hormone levels are t at 12 & estrogen at 186. Face lift & eye lid surgery in 2014. Abdominoplasty/tummy tuck & some facial surgery May, 2015. Life is good for me. Love long nails & handsome men! Hopeful for my GRS & a nice normal depth vagina maybe by late summer. 5' 8", 180 pounds, 14 dress size, size 9.5 shoes. I'm kind of an elegant woman & like everything pink, nice & neet. Love my nails & classic Revlon Red. Moving back to Florida, so excited but so much work moving
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Matthew

I look forward to being able to live in my body how I should be able to - to be able to wear any style of tshirt, to have any style of hair and to be able to live a normal life without worrying about discomfort or misgendering.
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Lady_Oracle

Surgery is the last part of my transition so I'll just list what I'm looking forward to when im post op.

let's see in no particular order
- swimming in a bikini, sucks that I have a bikini bod but can't really wear any yet  :(
- actually having a sex life
- being able to enjoy showers/bathes and not loathe them anymore
- not having to think twice about what my outfit is due to my downstairs
- wearing dresses/skirts without undies (would help a ton with preventing yeast infections)



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KarlMars

Quote from: Lady_Oracle on April 06, 2016, 08:07:55 PM
Surgery is the last part of my transition so I'll just list what I'm looking forward to when im post op.

let's see in no particular order
- swimming in a bikini, sucks that I have a bikini bod but can't really wear any yet  :(
- actually having a sex life
- being able to enjoy showers/bathes and not loathe them anymore
- not having to think twice about what my outfit is due to my downstairs
- wearing dresses/skirts without undies (would help a ton with preventing yeast infections)

I can identify with 2& 3. Good luck on your journey!

AnxietyDisord3r

Quote from: arice on April 05, 2016, 12:21:23 PM
Being seen as and treated as a guy by people I encounter.
Having a more masculine physique would be awesome... but I can handle the feminine if I'm not being treated like a woman.

This is the worst thing.  In some cultures, if you come out as trans, you are considered trans, and treated accordingly. In Western cultures, if you come out as trans pre-everything, you are considered "confused". You will continue to be treated as the sex you were assigned at birth. Change your hair, change your clothing, they will now think you are gay, because that's the same thing, right?

I think that HRT is a MIRACLE of modern science. It is AMAZING. I love it. I had so much pain over thinking my body couldn't be changed and it CAN. Yes! Why suffer in the stone age. But ...

Why do people have to treat us this way?

They should acknowledge our identities without physical changes.

They should grasp that there are more than two sexes, with all the requisite attributes lining up in order.

Did you know when Europeans first tried to colonize North America they returned to Europe with stories of "hermaphrodites"? They encountered a culture where a man could have breasts and a woman could have a penis and it blew their tiny little minds.  ;D
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arice

Quote from: AnxietyDisord3r on April 10, 2016, 10:02:18 AM
This is the worst thing.  In some cultures, if you come out as trans, you are considered trans, and treated accordingly. In Western cultures, if you come out as trans pre-everything, you are considered "confused". You will continue to be treated as the sex you were assigned at birth. Change your hair, change your clothing, they will now think you are gay, because that's the same thing, right?

I think that HRT is a MIRACLE of modern science. It is AMAZING. I love it. I had so much pain over thinking my body couldn't be changed and it CAN. Yes! Why suffer in the stone age. But ...

Why do people have to treat us this way?

They should acknowledge our identities without physical changes.

They should grasp that there are more than two sexes, with all the requisite attributes lining up in order.

Did you know when Europeans first tried to colonize North America they returned to Europe with stories of "hermaphrodites"? They encountered a culture where a man could have breasts and a woman could have a penis and it blew their tiny little minds.  ;D
I know. I also think some of the "understanding" of gender is individual rather than cultural. My son (now 6) has always had a very "non-western" understanding of gender and sexuality. He has always been confident that he is a boy and that he has a penis... but he never leapt to the conclusion that ALL boys have them. In fact, he was insisting as early as two years old that some boys have them and some don't and that some girls have them and some don't... he is also very insistent that some people are both boys and girls. He has also had a thorough acceptance of lesbian and gay relationships and even polyamory. I would say that it's just because he has grown up around diversity but it is more than that... he just "knows" these things from the first moment he is exposed to it and leaps into other people's conversations to enlighten them... My daughter (4 years old), on the other hand, is more rigid in her understanding of gender expression. She is not intolerant of differences (her best friend is a gender fluid AMAB with lesbian parents) but she is definitely more aware that they are "different".

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KarlMars

Quote from: arice on April 10, 2016, 11:27:38 AM
I know. I also think some of the "understanding" of gender is individual rather than cultural. My son (now 6) has always had a very "non-western" understanding of gender and sexuality. He has always been confident that he is a boy and that he has a penis... but he never leapt to the conclusion that ALL boys have them. In fact, he was insisting as early as two years old that some boys have them and some don't and that some girls have them and some don't... he is also very insistent that some people are both boys and girls. He has also had a thorough acceptance of lesbian and gay relationships and even polyamory. I would say that it's just because he has grown up around diversity but it is more than that... he just "knows" these things from the first moment he is exposed to it and leaps into other people's conversations to enlighten them... My daughter (4 years old), on the other hand, is more rigid in her understanding of gender expression. She is not intolerant of differences (her best friend is a gender fluid AMAB with lesbian parents) but she is definitely more aware that they are "different".

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Those children seem advanced for their age. You have taught them well.

arice

Quote from: alienbodybuilder on April 10, 2016, 08:26:45 PM
Those children seem advanced for their age. You have taught them well.
Only in some ways. :) they also teach me constantly.

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galaxy

The most important thing are to get healthy after 7 month post. Living with pain and limits. On the other side its necessary to correct all your hormone substitution. It all gpingz crazy after surgery. If you think anything will be change post OP ... No, definitely no. I my case i got hundreds of new problems.
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Rachel_Christina

I just want to enjoy life, go on long drives with my Car!
Enjoy the wind and freedom in my hair :3


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King Malachite

Marriage-having a wife that will be able to see me physically as a man.
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GingerMaxim

I have no intentions of transitioning at this time in my life. With no proper social support group
and friends who would NOT understand, I only want SRS to make ME Happy!!!

I don't want to transition at this point.
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naa

Being able to go out and interact with people as myself would be nice.
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KarlMars

Quote from: galaxy on April 10, 2016, 10:53:59 PM
The most important thing are to get healthy after 7 month post. Living with pain and limits. On the other side its necessary to correct all your hormone substitution. It all gpingz crazy after surgery. If you think anything will be change post OP ... No, definitely no. I my case i got hundreds of new problems.

Do you mean that transition caused more medical or emotional problems? Sorry for your distress. Bless you.

Tessa James

I am one of those who see life as ongoing transitions and adaption to change.  I don't have a target endpoint and will embrace new ideas until I take the final bow and leave the stage.  We are fortunate to have so many opportunities now to address our needed changes. 

For many of us there is always a new person that we will "come out" to or with.  Getting started with transition took me forever and was still wonderful.  How and when it finishes is yet to be determined.  I can imagine something highly theatrical, dramatic and definite as well as a quiet ride into the sunset surrounded by those we love.  It's a journey.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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AnxietyDisord3r

Tessa,

I also see this as a journey. I expect to learn a lot. I'm excited about having a body that better matches who I am inside, but I'm nervous about social aspects because I'm set in my ways and social stuff is difficult for me.

I honestly can't imagine trying to live stealth. I married a bisexual woman. She has always seen me for who I am. I feel like trying to date monosexual people is more of a minefield, although some monosexual people are attracted to gender rather than sex and aren't put out by the alien bodyparts issue at all.
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freebrady2015

The things I most look forward to are

-Being the best father I can to my future children and being their male role model in this world
-Walking around in my city as a man and going out to bars and dancing (I really want to get hit on by gay men >:-)
-Having facial hair, a flat chest, and a man butt and staring myself in the mirror
-Playing the sports I grew up playing but having more strength and stamina.. and just being stronger and more energetic overall
-Feeling confident finally having the right body

the list could go on and on :)
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WorkingOnThomas

Things I look forward
- liking my body and feeling comfortable in it
- just being a guy
- just being treated as a guy
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KarlMars

Quote from: freebrady2015 on April 12, 2016, 09:58:48 AM
The things I most look forward to are

-Being the best father I can to my future children and being their male role model in this world
-Walking around in my city as a man and going out to bars and dancing (I really want to get hit on by gay men >:-)
-Having facial hair, a flat chest, and a man butt and staring myself in the mirror
-Playing the sports I grew up playing but having more strength and stamina.. and just being stronger and more energetic overall
-Feeling confident finally having the right body

the list could go on and on :)

Does having a man's butt come with the hormones or surgery? That's another thing that would make me happy is not having a woman's butt.

WorkingOnThomas

Hormones redistribute fat, but how much and to where depends on the person. That will effect what you butt looks like. Mind you, so does exercise. A lot of squat lifts and you get a really nice lifters butt. :D
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