My experience has been similar to the others. I started off with a full-face laser session, and after a few weeks, began the electrolysis regimen, with occasional laser sessions thrown in. I started on straight thermolysis. It hurts like hell, even with lidocaine cream. About mid-way through my electrologist switched to blended electrolysis, which seemed a little less painful. I have very sensitive skin, but now I experience less redness and swelling than I used to. We even went back to straight thermolysis, and I'm okay with it.
For the upper lip, I found ice works the best. I bring a small cold pack, and hold it on my lip while other areas are being done, and then when it's good and numb, I'll have her do as many hairs as I can stand. I then reapply the ice pack and she'll do another batch a little later.
I pay $128/hr, but I love my electrologist. She is very experienced with trans clients, and the salon is only ten minutes away, so it's worth it to me. She doesn't charge me any extra for the laser treatments, and she has even waxed my eyebrows and done other little things for free.
I have been doing about two hours a month for the last 18 months or so. I am a few hours away from being done with the first clearing, but I did not have a real heavy beard, and the whiskers I do have left are all white.
Hope that helps,
Terri