Non-Binary Roll Call

[bunnymom]

Hi bunnymom! Would you say that your daughter inspired you, or brought it out in you? This sounds like an interesting and wonderful dynamic! And kudos to you for doing so much work for equality!

My daughter just helps me not be so self conscious of my masculinity. Also discovering "non-binary" helps me relate to her.
Honestly, I asked her if she could "just be a feminine male" instead of transitioning, because I've had the "advantage " of being a masculine female. It doesn't really work that way for her. I believe if I  had been born with a male body, I  probably would have just been accepting of my body and probably have been gay and effeminate.
I'm still uncomfortable at times because I don't fit with the binary. I guess it's a bonus that I have a male-sounding name to allow for my "un-ladylike" behavior 
Sometimes I feel "traitorous" to my non-binary identity when I want to dress girly and wear make-up. But it also feels wrong when I have to bow out of a heavy work task because I have a middle-aged woman's physique.
I do not mean to offend when I say most of my life I've felt like a gay man trapped in a woman's body. (But no need to change parts)
I guess I'm wearing "drag" when I  doll up. But AFAB have an easier time with living "in the middle", I think.

[Tessa James]

After rereading a few posts on this thread I sit wondering how many people really feel all that Binary about gender?  I am old and social enough to know many people that really don't fit the stereotypical dictates of gender identity and clearly don't fit the presentations or gender roles our cultures reinforce.

We can be grateful for those who think, feel and act outside those two neat boxes.  Those boxes are too tight to define me and we can be sure there are many other people who want to share in the sense of freedom we inspire by just being ourselves. 

100 years ago women in the USA rarely wore pants or slacks and now more people obviously feel free to express themselves in more colorful ways.  Tats anyone?  a few decades ago they were mostly for drunken sailors. 
What floats your identity boat is yours to sail away with.  I am grateful for sharing ideas here with you 

[suzifrommd]

After rereading a few posts on this thread I sit wondering how many people really feel all that Binary about gender?  I am old and social enough to know many people that really don't fit the stereotypical dictates of gender identity and clearly don't fit the presentations or gender roles our cultures reinforce.

Though there's a difference between gender variant behavior/preferences and not feeling like you belong cleanly to any binary gender, right?

There are plenty of women who wouldn't wear a dress or guys who don't love cars and tools who would still never say "I'm not completely a man/woman, I'm something else or only partway, etc."

Gender identity isn't about what you like to do/wear, it's about how you see yourself, isn't it?

[Satinjoy]

Hmmmmm....

Dysphoria has always been hardest when i lose the consciousness of who i am.  As one normally presenting male androgyne at work, and female androgyne or full out girl at home or on the street, i need to be aware of my gender to be comfortable.  And in that nonbinary head, that gender that is my own, i can be anyone socially accross the spectrum and be comfortable.

I see nonbinary as being "more than".

Its hard to explain it.

Lol its getting harder lately.

I just like being sh'e.

[Kouzoku]

I'm 34 and I identify as third gender.   

My apologies for not posting often - I'm the type that turns inwards when I need to figure things about and I've been doing a lot of that over the past couple of years in addition to battling health issues, but I see the light at the end of the tunnel! 

[Satinjoy]

[Tessa James]

Though there's a difference between gender variant behavior/preferences and not feeling like you belong cleanly to any binary gender, right?

There are plenty of women who wouldn't wear a dress or guys who don't love cars and tools who would still never say "I'm not completely a man/woman, I'm something else or only partway, etc."

Gender identity isn't about what you like to do/wear, it's about how you see yourself, isn't it?

Oh yes, certainly!  I was still transgender when presenting and appearing as a guy but now I also get to express my gender identity in ways that are more congruent with being myself