Transition - Feminine or Tom Boyish

[GingerMaxim]

Have any one transition MtF on HRT and transitioned but in a more tomboy style instead of the typical feminine format. ie: women's dresses and so on?

I don't consider myself to be feminine, more of a female tomboy. I am not saying I am NOT female, but why do I have to wear feminine style womens clothing. Sure I wear bras and panties, but I typically wear more boyish clothing.

So when it comes to applying for SRS, why MUST I be in feminine clothing?
What is wrong with a female tomboy?

Ginger

[Megan.]

I'm MtF, but also an engineer and always will be, I love a fast car, and the sound of a V8. When dressed it's usually jeans and a top for me, I doubt I'll ever spend much time in dresses, but few women do these days. You decide how you feel, how you dress and what you do, no one else should be defining this for you outside of dress code policies and common decency where appropriate.

[Dena]

I now work as a land lord on industrial rental property. As such, I may find myself tearing something apart, cleaning a unit or doing paper work. The "uniform" is mens tennis shoes because most of the 30 acres are corse gravel, jeans and a feminine top or a T shirt. When I was doing office after my transition I wore dresses but I switched to pants after damaging a couple of expensive skirts on equipment edges.

Wear what you are comfortable in and what is appropriate for where you are. Pants on women are acceptable almost everywhere other than very formal events.

[Jestwacked]

I am definitely more of a tomboy type 

[suzifrommd]

Ginger, like all women we are entitled to be whatever type of women we are.

Wear whatever clothing you're comfortable with and TOTALLY ROCK IT!!!

[kaitylynn]

To the first question, yes.  I too feel "tomboy" more than "girlie girl", though I am definitely female and my manners are such.  My therapist and I were discussing this very subject a few months ago and she asked me "why do you have to be anything other than what you are?" when we were chatting about masculine/feminine traiting.  She thinks I am more girlie than she is, as a GG...but both of us dress jeans and t's most od the time.

As for why one must dress some particular way regarding GCS, I think it is a veiled form of judgmental attitude.  Is it wrong to be GG and not wear a dress?  They are just clothes and it is funny to me the import that is bestowed upon their meaning.

Sorry, just being zenie about the whole thing.

[GingerMaxim]

The main reason why I wrote this was because in Ontario, Canada to apply for funding for SRS
one main category says the female must live/dressed in women's clothes for 1 year.

To me that makes no sense. Why must I dress femininely in "women's" to be female.

As you all say, most of the time you dress more Tomboyish, ie: no dresses, skirts and so on.

So as it stands now, I am being denied funding for my SRS simply because I don't dress in feminine clothes.

[Megan.]

Surely women's jeans count as women's clothes?

[Dena]

It dates back to the RLE that I transitioned under. I was to present as a woman for a year before surgery. Pants were acceptable under that standard but living and working as a man wasn't. I don't know your rules but you need to ask if that means you need to wear dresses and how many of the things that a CIS woman would wear are acceptable. I haven't worn a dress or skirt in 15-20 years but I dress female with dress women pants, blouse and shoes as needed. The only thing I wear that's male is T shirts with custom printing on them and I have seen women wearing them as well.

[GingerMaxim]

I agree.

[suzifrommd]

So as it stands now, I am being denied funding for my SRS simply because I don't dress in feminine clothes.

Wear something femmy when you show up for your appointments.

Wear whatever the heck you want the rest of the time.

No it's not good to be dishonest with your medical providers unless they're neanderthal judgmental gatekeepers.

[itsApril]

I'm with several of the ladies who answered.  I usually dress on the casual side, mostly jeans and tops, and I rarely wear makeup.  Nobody confuses me with a guy, though.

Just go out this afternoon to a busy place and spend a few hours watching people.  Anybody who thinks all cis females wear dresses, skirts, high heels and nylons is living in the past.

[GingerMaxim]

I wish I would have thought of that before. But I just live my life and don't believe
in playing the game. I am a 50 yr old trans woman and I don't a feminine look. When I do wear makeup, I do slightly look more feminine...

But I guess I should have and most likely would have been accepted.

I was invited back to discuss my letter I wrote them. No it wasn't mean or threatening in any way.
It just explained why I choose NOT to transition in the manner the government says I MUST be...

So would you recommend I dress a bit more "Womanly"?

I just want my SRS.

[Dena]

I would suggest something like flats, skirt, blouse and optional jacket. In others words, business wear. Look nice but not sexy or over exposed. Women tend to dress up a bit for important engagements and maybe the fact that you are comfortable in that type of dress will tip the balance.

[big kim]

I kind of dress a bit butch & ordinary like many women my age (58). Black pants, flat shoes coloured top for work. Jeans, T shirt, trainers or Dr Martin/Army style boots, hoodie when not on my Harley Sportster. Don't often wear make up, I have long blonde hair I usually wear in a pony tail (or braid when on bike).
Meganjames 2 I also love the sound of a V8, a 67/68 Mercury Cougar is my alltime favourite American car.