I don't know how to deal with this

[Jaydeen]

When I came out my family didn't care they still called me a she and things. My grandpa is now still saying things he doesn't think it makes me feel bad But it does. He makes this trans* joke that isn't even a bit funny. He makes me cry all the time. He said that he won't change his Believes because of how I feel but I never told him he had to. I tell him not to call me a she or by my birth name but he still does. I don't know what to do.
-Jayden

[GarryLynn]

I get called a he a lot, it's not fun :c tell the exactly how you feel, how much it hurts, because trans people deserve respect too. My dad is a transphobic bible-thumping Christian, when I balled my eyes out and told him how upset I was about not being allowed to be myself and how hateful he was to me about everything, it changed a lot.

[suzifrommd]

When I came out my family didn't care they still called me a she and things. My grandpa is now still saying things he doesn't think it makes me feel bad But it does. He makes this trans* joke that isn't even a bit funny. He makes me cry all the time. He said that he won't change his Believes because of how I feel but I never told him he had to. I tell him not to call me a she or by my birth name but he still does. I don't know what to do.
-Jayden

Calling you a name you don't like to be called, whether you are cis or trans, is a sign of extreme disrespect. You are being insulted.

Explain in whatever way you think he'll take seriously that you expect to be addressed by the name you prefer and you consider it insulting if he does otherwise. If he still refuses, treat him the way you would anyone who deliberately chooses to insult you repeatedly.

[Vanessa_Glidewell]

when I started my social transition a year ago people didn't care. They called me he, my birth name, labelled me as a guy, so then, I got hair extensions, did my eyebrows and perfected my makeup, updated my whole wardrobe, went through stressful voice feminisation, and it was almost like magic how people suddenly adjusted to feminine terms. What <Not Permitted> me off too was that I felt like I had to present fully as a girl to get them to respect me, because one day i wasn't feeling well and I was super tired from mountain climbing that previous day, I came to school with no extensions, no makeup, and a hoodie and sweatpants, and people reverted back to masculine terms. But I realised I was still the same girl I've always been, and I learned I didn't need their respect. I have the respect of my friends and my family, and those are the only people I care about. So what if my hair is short, so what if I'm not on E yet, so what if I want to wear a hoodie? You are you, and no matter what, other people don't define your gender, only you. Eventually you can/will/will-keep-on-with-your (idk your situation lol) transition and people will start to respect you. It's sad that it's really the only way to be taken serious, but you're a dude and that's all that should matter