Reduced dosage but maintane feminine

[mnrjpf99]

This might sound like a weird post but, here it goes...
I have been on HRT for 3 months now and loving it! However, even though I 95% pass except my face, (meaning I dress only in women's clothing, that are gender neutral in design, I have long hair and feminine sized body), I don't want to come out because of the immense problems it would cause for me. For one, my 6 year old won't understand and so on. I am happy the way things are, because I live my life as a woman, without the headache of not passing. I hope that all made sense.
Anyway, I want to have breasts that are not so big that they can't be somewhat concealed. If I get to a AA to an A, that is fine. My question is, is it possible to continue with my regular HRT, until my breasts get to the desired size and then reduce the dosage to the point that my body stays feminized, but changes are basically halted?
Please don't judge me on this. I feel that I am doing what's bets for me.
Thank you

[Dena]

What you are asking is very dependent on your body. I was at a full transition dosage for about 3 years and never went over a AA cup size while others find they are very responsive to even a low dosage. I would think the safest bet would be if you are responding to HRT, to cut back as soon as possible to allow time for slow growth if you are one of the very responsive people. Much will depend on getting the blood levels in the lower range for a CIS woman.

As for not wanting big breast, there is nothing wrong with that. CIS women get breast reduction surgery because they are larger than they want. I am also a member of the club that is content with smaller breast. Big breast hurt and get in the way. I am happy with what I have and don't have implants for this reason.

[Mavis]

I know it doesn't answer your question but 6 year olds do understand, in fact based on my research it is the ideal age if you want full acceptance from your child. According to the US school system the consensus of their experience is the younger the better, they found elementary students to be the most open minded and accepting.

I also contacted a support group out of Washington which supports kids with trans parents, they said the same thing, in their experience the younger the better. I have 5 kids and have not come out to them yet, but I do not dress neutral either, a couple times they would ask, is that mommy's? And I would say no it's daddy's and that was the end of it. The only reason for not fully coming out to them yet is my therapist said it will be easiest for their minds to wrap around when there are physical changes that can be shown to them such as breast development.

[Soli]

I agree with Mavis but I say you may go your own way and define yourself as you wish, your children will always accept you as you are, it's not a problem. Teenage years are more difficult, but if it was accepted before, most probably it will remain that way then.

As for your body, you cannot know how it will turn out. It's mostly genetic. Did your mother have large breasts? Your sisters? That can give you a clue, but not for sure. I suppose if you were to develop larger breasts, at 3 months HRT you would already notice changes clearly. Maybe not, I don't know. I suppose you can find the right dosage to keep your E and T at the same level, but if you are genetically programmed to have large breasts, they will grow anyways.

I hope this answer makes sense... with the info I got, this is how I understand it.

[mnrjpf99]

My breasts are already over 2" around and my nipples are over an inch off my chest just only being on HRT 3 months. I am not over weight or anything either.
My mum was not very big. My sisters were all older so I am not sure about them.

[Soli]

My breasts are already over 2" around and my nipples are over an inch off my chest just only being on HRT 3 months. I am not over weight or anything either.
My mum was not very big. My sisters were all older so I am not sure about them.

your sisters were too old to notice how big their breasts were? 

I have learned the other week how this works, and that's when I discovered I'm not really in the charts yet, meaning I don't really have breasts, although since then it grew a little, maybe I'm AA now.

read ChloeAri's post at bottom of this thread, she explains how to measure

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,206708.msg1840108.html#

[mnrjpf99]

My sisters moved out when I was little. Lol

[Soli]

oh I see haha  sorry I had not figured it that way

[Valwen]

Young kids tend to deal with it the best, just saying it makes you happy is usually enough. There still at a age where they regularly learn things that change how they think about the world. The worst tends to be tweens and teens, they are often so obsessed with how people see them that they freak out when they start thinking of what people will think of them because of there parent.

People always seem to worry about how young children will deal with things but kids are way more flexible and adaptive to changing situations than teens or adults.

Serena

[Claire]

I know it is only one example but it seems like Jenny Boylan and her wife handled it well in 'She's Not There'. http://www.amazon.com/Shes-Not-There-Life-Genders/dp/0385346972/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1461668455&sr=1-1&keywords=she%27s+not+there


Claire (née Dori)

[mnrjpf99]

Interesting Dori, I will check that out.
As far as my lil one goes, he may very well handle it well, but my adult family and friends, not so much. Plus I just don't want all the other problems that can stem from it. I think in the end I would end up with very few friends and family if I actively presented as female. Even though for the most part people have an idea  that I am trans, they don't see it and I think they can handle that.
I have lived as a female all of my life, but just didn't really realize it until a few years ago. All that matters is that I know who and what I am. I don't have to prove that to anyone else.

[Mavis]

I know it is only one example but it seems like Jenny Boylan and her wife handled it well in 'She's Not There'. http://www.amazon.com/Shes-Not-There-Life-Genders/dp/0385346972/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1461668455&sr=1-1&keywords=she%27s+not+there


Claire (née Dori)

Great book, not finished yet but so many parallels for me so far

[Rachel]

Young children are a blank slate and bigotry is a learned behavior. 6 is a great age to start explaining things. The use of a gender therapist that has child trans experience could help immensely.