when is transition appropriate?

[joanie]

The instant I felt envy of those who have the female form, I knew it was time to contemplate transitioning. I was in a relationship with a girl, and romance became very difficult because I simply wanted to be in her place more than I did mine. If anyone ever thinks to themselves that they're not enjoying life due to their gender, they should consider transitioning, in my opinion.

wow. yeah, been going through this for a few years... the only way I seem to  function sexually is by being in girl mode...the more i embrace my femininity and express it the more enjoyable and accessible  the sexual experience is for me. Im currently involved with a girl who is into and open to this stuff which has been wonderful in terms of allowing me to explore and experiment. Prior to her and prior to realizing i was trans it was all very confusing and demoralizing. Ive always wanted to be in the girls place but now there doesnt seem to even really be an option.. im a girl? haha

[joanie]

I wasn't suicidal at all (nor am I now). I was and still am happily married. I saw it as an ascension, a rising into a place of deeper happiness. It was an act of self love to transition. There were tears and times of desperation, sure, but generally it was a 'running toward' rather than a 'running away from,' if that makes sense. Good luck!


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Ascension!  ))

[Ksxr01]

I notice a lot of others say that transitioning is common when the only alternative is death, but i really disagree with that...hopefully it never gets to that point. What encourages me the most is knowing that society has been 'coming around' more so lately to LGBT issues. I recently made the decision to transition and come out bc im at the point i dont care what others really think of me and rather care about being truly happy. Since i made this decision ive surprisingly lost a lot of anxiety and frustration id been carrying for years. Youd be surprised how much easier it may be to come out and transition versus doing nothing. Note, you may want to try and have all your ducks in a row though,  job, finances, etc. My 2c

[kittenpower]

If I wouldn't have transitioned I would have continued to be miserable in the closet (btw, being in the closet is not the same as being stealth; whereas stealth is when you have transitioned to living full-time as your true gender, and  everything from your looks to your sneeze and laugh are so flawless that you pass 100% as cis, and no one would even consider that you could even remotely be trans *the thought never enters there mind*; and of course all of your records have been changed, so there is no way to link you to your pre-transition past), but I knew since I was 25 that I was going to transition, I just didn't know how to start the process until just before my 35th birthday and I had access to the Internet for the first time, and then I had to wait another 9 years to transition (I am a realist, and I'm extremely patient when I need to be, so that I can ensure the best possible outcome), because of work and family issues, and I went back to school and got a degree, and I *needed* some FFS before I could go full-time, so I had to save for that. And I also wanted to allow time for HRT to feminize me as much as possible before I went full-time(I was a bodybuilder for several years and I took anabolic steroids for a year, so I had to allow time for muscle atrophy).

[joanie]

Kittenpower your picture always makes me really happy so you started at age 44? thats so inspiring!   
well, i had my bloodwork done on monday. I have an appointment at the end of the month to get my prescription for HRT if I want it.....Not sure how I m gonna come to any certainty in the next 3 weeks but I guess im gonna try... Figured id take a stab at spending a few weeks completely male.. no dressing, no browsing trans timelines, forums, etc. and just see how it feels. Maybe get an idea of what it will be like to not start transition....