Pictures of the female body

[Sara]

Victoria, you need to snap out of that mode of thinking. I along with countless others have felt that way too and it gets you nowhere. I have sunk so low that I now have to go to therapy. I dont know if you have talked to someone about the way you feel or not and certainly dont claim to know alot about anything really but I know when it is time to see someone and that time is now. If you are getting depressed or thinking the obvious then please seek help. Your parents will understand over time. Your saftey and health is more important than anything.

Sara.

[Victoria L.]

I would go see someone, but I can't just really go see people by myself (I don't even own a car... or have a driver's license... )

My mom takes me to someone, but I can't talk to them either, because they talk to my mom about what I'm saying afterwards... so if I just told them everything I'm feeling my mom would get all stressed about it again...

For now, you all are my only therapy...

[Kimberly]

*HUGS Victoria*

Hang in there Tori, life does get better... seriously.

I would go see someone, but I can't just really go see people by myself (I don't even own a car... or have a driver's license... )
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I also have neither care er car nor license and for what it is worth I 'travel' to my therapist via phone.


^*ponders*

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My mom takes me to someone, but I can't talk to them either, because they talk to my mom about what I'm saying afterwards... so if I just told them everything I'm feeling my mom would get all stressed about it again...
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Hum, you might can (but probably not) do something with patient privacy or something. Perhaps as simple as asking your mother to effectively not listen in for a while.

It is somewhat of a danger chatting openly with a therapist type person who does not understand GID. But, it might be worth it to get your foot in the door so to speak, so that you can then get a therapist who specializes, or at least has A LOT of experience in GID related things.

Regardless, I am inclined to say if it is destroying you inside it is worth telling your mom.

But it all depends on how close to your tolerance you are (I.e. how much more can you take), and the type of people you have to deal with. So, obviously ^*wink*, use your own judgment.

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For now, you all are my only therapy...

While this forum is no substitute for therapy it is without a doubt therapeutic.


Stay strong Tori and don't let life push you around

[Sara]

I see the dilemma Victoria. When I was little I used to see a therapist and they too talked to my mother afterwoods. My mom would come in with me for a little while then I would have a time when I was spoken to in private but then afterwoods the therapist would talk to my mom and let her know how I was doing.

I dont think they actually would say something to your mother if you asked them not to, especially if it would put you and your parents lives of more risk of stress and health issues.

Dont be affraid (says she who is about to throw it all on the table), If you think like I did that hiding your feelings is going to get any easier over the years well then it doesnt but dont ever feel like you have to do anything you dont want to do. If you need more time then thats ok too.

Sara.

[Alison]

The Magic of Digital Retouching

http://homepage.mac.com/gapodaca/digital/digital.html

Just look at some of those before and afters (roll over the image to see before)  It's really amazing..

I'm a digital artist in my spare time, and you can -really- work magic with photos... Don't believe the pictures you see in the media, it is an unrealistic ideal to even try to achieve.... well, really -everyone- can achieve it with a photo, an artist, and photoshop.

[Sara]

Wow Alison, I gotta get me one of those programs that can reshape your face, give you white teeth and get rid of the blemishes on your face not too mention fatten your lips. That is an amazing web page. Now, I suppose they could give me bigger boobs. Nothing like the real thing though!

Sara.

[Alison]

More magic of digital retouching...


http://www.glennferon.com/portfolio1/index.html

[Dennis]

Interesting that he seems to be trying to make them more beautiful, but what he's doing is erasing any touches of individuality and making them look plastic. I think many of the images are more beautiful before retouching.

Dennis

[Sara]

Dennis, I think he is only being artistic. I know I would want that kind of image if I were to have my photo taken. I have smooth skin but it doesnt hurt to cover up the flaws and look beautiful.
As for plastic, there was an australian girl who had surgery to look like barbie and I think that is going a little overboard, however I suppose if I had the money there is a few things I would do to change my looks but that is personal preference.

Sara.