I've tried both, and neither works for me. I gave the epilator a real college try, but when my electrologist told me that long-term use of an epilator eventually leaves scars around the hair follicles (they call them "EpiLady scars"), and that both epilator and waxing carry a much higher risk of ingrowns, I gave up on both, and now I just shave. I tried depilatories, but my hair is so thick and coarse, I either end up with burns, or it doesn't do the job. Shaving it is for me. Now that I'm on HRT, I'm hoping it won't be too long before my body hair gets finer and easier to deal with. And maybe I'll eventually get it lasered...