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Alora's Adventures

Started by Alora, November 28, 2016, 10:41:03 AM

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Alora


This is my journey. On November 17th I discovered the real me. The girl that I had locked away in a gilded so many years ago had had enough. She wasn't going to let me waist my life any longer.

I have never felt better in my life.

I finally feel whole.


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Saira128

Wow.. It seems I discovered it 6 days later on the 23rd of November.
      So I guess, we are nearly of the same "Girl" age.
       When are you starting your transition?
Love ,
          Saira :-*
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Alora

Quote from: Saira128 on November 28, 2016, 09:23:45 PM
       When are you starting your transition?

Well I guess you could say that I started on the 21st. That is when I made my HRT intake appointment. It is also when I came out to my first person in person. Now my appointment isn't for another 6 months but I think I need this time. To change my diet, start working out, start working on finding my voice, and making little every day changes.

How about you? Have you started your transition yet Saira?


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Saira128

Not yet. I'm trying to shed off some weight. Haven't yet come out to a single person. Haven't met a therapist.
     I'm still very much in my early days.
Love ,
          Saira :-*
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Alora

Well today was the start of my "workout". Really it's just work, but I am working for UPS during their peak season. It was 5 hrs of lifting, walking, up and down step stools. I'm going to be sore in the morning.

I drank 64oz of water during that time, will probably drink another 16-32 before bed. Time to go get some chicken and veggies for dinner tonight.

I need to remember to weight myself tomorrow at school.


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Alora

Oooo... I almost forgot. I got a call from the Seattle counseling services. I have an intake appointment next Friday. [emoji16][emoji847][emoji16]


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Saira128

Congrats! I didn't really understand what you meant by oz. In my country, we use litre.
   What is UPS? And do you still go to school?
     Sorry for my ignorance. I don't really know anything about USA.
    And best luck for Friday.
     
Love ,
          Saira :-*
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Alora

Quote from: Saira128 on November 30, 2016, 10:29:41 PM
Congrats! I didn't really understand what you meant by oz. In my country, we use litre.
   What is UPS? And do you still go to school?
     Sorry for my ignorance. I don't really know anything about USA.
    And best luck for Friday.
   
Hey Saira,

That would be just shy of 2 liters. I think there are 33.2 oz in a liter.

I am still in school. This is just a part time job. Really I took it so that I would get paid to workout. It's a little bit of a jump start to working out on my own. UPS stands for United Parcel Service. They are a package delivery company. However, I work in a package sorting facility that routes packages to their proper destinations.

And don't worry about it. I'm sure there is very little I know about your country. I'm happy to share and educate as I can. [emoji16]

Loves [emoji182]❤️[emoji182]


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Janes Groove

I'm sorry to hear that you have to wait so long to receive care. Seattle must be a tough town to find transgender services.
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Alora

Quote from: Jane Emily on November 30, 2016, 10:55:13 PM
I'm sorry to hear that you have to wait so long to receive care. Seattle must be a tough town to find transgender services.
The starting HRT at an informed consent clinic that will take my state insurance is a rough wait. That appointment isn't until June 2.

Waiting until next Friday to start therapy is me dragging my feet a little because I'm really nervous about going and my schedule is a little wonky at the moment.

The HRT wait is killing me, but I need it. I need to build some healthy habits to replace the years of unhealthy dysphoric habits my male counterpart established.

It's going to take a lot of work but I'm determined to set this girl free!!!


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Janes Groove

Maybe once you start therapy your therapist can direct you to another provider that accepts your insurance.   Since you won't have to limit yourself to the informed consent model anymore.
I was in therapy and living full time for 6 months before starting HRT.  It's not as long as you think.  Looking back, I shouldn't have waited so long but I had some issues to work through.  Living full time pre-HRT was an interesting experience tho, that's for sure.  Looking back that six months was really a pretty good time and I went to a lot of support group meetings and made new friends.  I think on some level tho I was testing the waters to see what it would be like, but I gotta say, after HRT, everything just got a lot easier.
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Saira128

I just booked an appointment with a psychiatrist. I have to be present at the clinic in 6 hours.
    I think, this will be the first person I come out to.
    I'm really scared of backing out at the last moment, because this is my first time.
      I just hope I can keep my composure and tell him what I am feeling.
      Its an half - hour appointment and cost me 350 Rupees, which is nearly equal to 5 dollars. And this is for a doctor who has 14 years of experience, has studied in a premier institute, and is also the head of the psychiatry department in my college.
     How much does an appointment cost in the United states?
Love ,
          Saira :-*
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Alora

Quote from: Saira128 on December 01, 2016, 12:29:23 AM
     How much does an appointment cost in the United states?

Without insurance most 50 minute sessions with a therapist will cost $120-140 dollars.

Good luck tomorrow. If you need anything let me know. It's okay to verbally vomit all over your Dr.

Loves 💋❤️💋
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Saira128

140$ ????  Thats like 28 times more than in India.
    Wow! So there are some benefits of living in a developing nation like India. So, what do people who are not well - off do in the US?
      Does everyone have insurance in the US?
Love ,
          Saira :-*
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sarah1972

This is great discussion. I love to learn about different countries and cultures and how things work there!

For health insurance in the US: It is a truly mixed bag here. A lot of people still do not have health insurance. And I know many are struggling with paying for doctors and medications. In addition when I tried to find a therapist, I discovered that only a very small amount of them accepts insurance since they do not want to deal with the paperwork to invoice insurances. Also insurances usually pay less that patients would have to pay. (For example: Usual session at my therapist is $150, my insurance has a negotiated rate with her of $71, I pay $15. So she ends up with $86 which is a lot less than her usual rate - crazy system). You usually also have to fight with your insurance to pay anything. Most insurances here exclude transgender care, so many of us in the US have to pay cash for everything.

I am not sure the 28 times is a good way to compare. Using numbers from the World Bank, your 350 Rupies Therapy session would compare to $ 50 in the US (I have been comparing the purchasing power parity numbers). Still means Therapy sessions are about 3 x the cost you pay.

How about health insurance in India?

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Janes Groove

Some of us have better options than others depending on where you live in the USA.  For example, I was able to get therapy for $20 a session from a pro bono counselor at my local gender center.   They offer a sliding scale based on ability to pay for transgender people all the way down to $2 per session.  I live in a very enlightened US State. 
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AshleyP

Yes, there's always lower cost options. I was able to negotiate a lower fee with a sympathetic counselor and got the referral in short order. I also qualified for low income health care from the state (one of the reddest states, I might add), so I was able to get all of the blood tests necessary for $40. The appointment for the script was $10. All together, it was less than $100USD.

To me the prescription costs are the travesty. I haven't been able to find any assistance program that I qualify for. For whatever reason, discount cards help. You can find 'em online, in little racks by the pharmacy pickup window, etc.

Shop around. For example, my most expensive medication (which is not HRT related, btw) is $47 for a 90 supply from a non-chain local pharmacy. At Walgreen's, the same medication is $212. On average, Walmart has the lowest prices, Walgreen's the highest. To add to the frustration, many pharmacies won't tell you the cost of a prescription without transferring it.

All the best,
--AshleyP



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Saira128

Quote from: sarah1972 on December 01, 2016, 07:04:47 AM
This is great discussion. I love to learn about different countries and cultures and how things work there!

For health insurance in the US: It is a truly mixed bag here. A lot of people still do not have health insurance. And I know many are struggling with paying for doctors and medications. In addition when I tried to find a therapist, I discovered that only a very small amount of them accepts insurance since they do not want to deal with the paperwork to invoice insurances. Also insurances usually pay less that patients would have to pay. (For example: Usual session at my therapist is $150, my insurance has a negotiated rate with her of $71, I pay $15. So she ends up with $86 which is a lot less than her usual rate - crazy system). You usually also have to fight with your insurance to pay anything. Most insurances here exclude transgender care, so many of us in the US have to pay cash for everything.

I am not sure the 28 times is a good way to compare. Using numbers from the World Bank, your 350 Rupies Therapy session would compare to $ 50 in the US (I have been comparing the purchasing power parity numbers). Still means Therapy sessions are about 3 x the cost you pay.

How about health insurance in India?
Health insurance in India is a joke. It doesn't even cover most of the common ailments.
      Majority of India's population is in the rural area. Most people in the urban areas are unable to make ends meet. 
       
      Indian health care system is very different. The government provides only the primary, secondary care. Majority of the population, is dependent on Government Hospitals, where they get free or subsidised care. But the condition of these hospitals is very poor.
       I am a medicine student. I'll be posted as an intern for the next year at one such hospital.

     Patients who can afford private care, depend on private hospitals in the cities. Although, only a few percent can afford private care, even this few percent makes a very, very large number of people. Thanks to our ever increasing population.

     Unlike the US, India still faces basic challenges like safe drinking water, proper sanitation, housing, etc.

     We are in 2016, and yet, our most common diseases are diarrhoea, tuberculosis and malaria. People here don't really have the time, nor the patience for people like me with a so called "EXOTIC" disease. Yes, gender dysphoria, homosexuality is considered a disease here.
     
      India spends only 4% of its GDP on healthcare. Compare that with 17% in the US.

     Our average life expectancy is 10-15 yrs less than the US.
   
      These are really shameful statistics.

       Most of us have to pay out of our pockets for quality healthcare. Yes, we can get it for free at any government hospitals, but the quality of the care is so poor, I won't recommend it to anyone.

      Also, I would love to write about the dreaded section 377 of the Indian Penal Code.
     Section 377 states that any kind of sexual act that doesn't involve peno- vaginal intercourse is deemed unnatural and punishable by law.

       The section 377 IPC is so vaguely written that, it not only has created a problem for the lgbt community, but also for the rest of the people. No oral sex in India LOL. Sex toys are also illegal here.

       So, what I wanted to say was, that India is probably running 20-30 years behind the US.
      We have a lot of catching up to do.
           
         This becomes more of a challenge for me. Because, being a doctor, I have to improve the health care system, and help the community, while being ostracized by the community itself for being a transgender.

      I see some very hard days in my future.


    Love,
     Saira.

     
     
Love ,
          Saira :-*
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Saira128

Quote from: Alora on December 01, 2016, 12:45:39 AM
Without insurance most 50 minute sessions with a therapist will cost $120-140 dollars.

Good luck tomorrow. If you need anything let me know. It's okay to verbally vomit all over your Dr.

Loves 💋❤️💋
Yes, I verbally vomitted infront of my psychiatrist. He was very understanding.
    At first, it was very hard for me to talk. I guess, I was a little ashamed.
    But as I began to interact, I became more comfortable.
     I told him, what I felt. It went ok I guess, for a first appointment.
   
Love ,
          Saira :-*
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