I give up; there are only two possibilities

[alex82]

that could be because  a few of the girls around 6-7 kept giving me a full body scan which I never saw before from kids. Woman have done like I do to them to see how they put things together.

Did you not have a photo up yesterday? Surely you haven't taken it down because of this? It looked fine.

Like a couple of other people, I too think the reason for the staring might have been to do with someone wearing fishnet stockings to go for an ice cream rather than anything with any more malice.

[sparrow]

FIshnets are awesome, sexy, and wonderful attention-getters.  Not so great if you don't want people to stare, though.  People of all ages and genders stare at ciswomen in fishnets.  Same goes for colored hair.

I don't wear age-appropriate clothing because I think that there's such a thing as age-appropriate clothing; I wear age-appropriate clothing because people stare at me less.  Gotta pick your battles.

[stephaniec]

I just like fishnets

[stephaniec]

Did you not have a photo up yesterday? Surely you haven't taken it down because of this? It looked fine.

Like a couple of other people, I too think the reason for the staring might have been to do with someone wearing fishnet stockings to go for an ice cream rather than anything with any more malice.

The photos were taken down for other reasons, they will go back sooner or later

[katiej]

I don't wear age-appropriate clothing because I think that there's such a thing as age-appropriate clothing; I wear age-appropriate clothing because people stare at me less.  Gotta pick your battles.

^^This!

I generally try to remember that what other people think about me is none of my business.  But it's hard to remember that when people are staring.

I mostly wear what other women my age in my area would be wearing and for the weather.  I find I don't get noticed and I so don't have to wonder whether they're noticing me or not. 

Kids and especially teenage girls are the exception though.  They still scare me! 

[Wild Flower]

I am sorry to hear that, but I have a feeling you werent being clock but rather just being look at for your fashion if you are wearing fishnets.

[stephaniec]

well, none of the kids ran screaming to their parents , so that's encouraging.

[stephaniec]

By the way I have on maroon opaque nylons today and a pretty blue,white and reddish  brown print dress.

[mmmmm]

If you dont look cis-female-like in most, if not all, aspects, there is usually one rule: less attention means better chances at passing, leading to not being clocked. More attention that you draw to yourself, higher are the chances that you are going to be clocked.

You might want to rethink your clothing choices, because it doesnt seem like you enjoyed the extra attention.

[stephaniec]

no harm intended , but that won't happen as far as changing style . I'm a Target girl . I would expect to get clocked if I had on a lot of make up and false eyalashes  that protruded 2 inches from  eyes and 6 inch heels with a stretch body type mini skirt.

[stephaniec]

My legs can't handle high heels any way

[Ange]

Childen are scary. They stare all the damn time. All - the - damn - time.

Even when nobody stares at you, there's always a child that will stare.

[arice]

Children are brutally honest. They notice everything and aren't afraid to say exactly what they have noticed. It doesn't even matter if they have been taught about gender nonconformity and transgender people... although it changes what they blurt out...


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[Annaiyah]

I was on the train putting my makeup on. As i did, there was this girl who moved to sit across from me. She just sat there and stared... smiling. She was kind of mesmerized and would NOT look away. She had to have been around 6 or 8 years old. I think the way she kept staring at me was the "she is soooooo pretty" stare.

So yeah, i don't think that it means you're getting clocked by a child, they might just think you're pretty

[2cherry]

We tend to "split", or what is called "splitting" in psychology. Something is either this, or that. People with borderline suffer from that also, and the cause might be simply as follows:

When we experience something negative, our brains put a tag on it: "bad". Now if it happens often enough, your brain develops a new schema (a pattern of thought), where the previous experience is reinforced by running the schema when you look or get stared at by someone. So the brain splits, and labels it either good or bad.

You might even reinforce the schema yourself, by actively looking at people to see if they look or stare at you. Which brings me to this: those who look or stare might wondering while you look and stare at them, because it takes two... 

[stephaniec]

I just get mixed signals all the time from kids. Some just smile because your older, some because your pretty and the others I haven't the slightest idea.

[stephaniec]

this was 20 years ago, I was out in proper attire and got on a bus. This was long before I   started hormones so all I had was a dress and make up . I'm sitting across the aisle from a high school girl going to school. I'm kind of freaking because I haven't a clue as how I'm perceived whether male or female. She just sat there looking at me smiling , so I figure I probably didn't look too bad, but I haven't the slightest idea what was going on in her head.

[JLT1]

When people stare at me, I check clothing, check my hair, I make sure that I haven't spilled something on myself and lastly, nothing hanging out my noose.  If I  find nothing (less often than I  like), I stand up, smile and say "hi", to the person in charge.

I've heard a hundred reasons for a stare.  Not once has it been because I'm trans.

I don't ever actually know what the munchkins are thinking until "Hi" and sometimes, not even then.

Stephanie, you are a nice looking and slightly paranoid woman.  Keep looking good.  Ditch the paranoia around children.

Hugs, 

Jen

[stephaniec]

I'm trying , but I keep thinking of a movie I think was from England where small groups of kids were  born around the world and both male and female had platinum hair and  when they reached a certain age they started destroying the towns they were born in.

[stephaniec]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Village_of_the_Damned_(1960_film)