Quote from: VeronicaMJ on June 03, 2016, 03:43:30 AM
its hard not worrying about tomorrow, too hard...i think maybe not to put soo much weight on tomorrows outcomes as they havent happend?
still the future is filled with fear, and i will wait to the next meeting.. your right if i lie, then i am only lying to myself..
I know this one all too well, still do somewhat...
My wife often said "Who made you God?". My therapist essentially the same but a bit less sarcasm.
And they're right... I do torture myself with wanting to Know. Wanting to in some way Control the outcome of all this. Part of it is fear of the unknowns. I tend to abhor change when it comes to my personal life (note the irony
). Professionally I am pretty good at making predictions and often need to resort tossing all that old crap out and starting over.
In my life I've had and still have an abysmal track record of predicting the future, much less controlling it. I barely can keep myself under control. It is impossible to control what others may feel or do.
The best we can do is modify how we react, how we feel, in response to our own wild thoughts or emotions. Which, in part is how we many times Think, others are feeling or reacting. There was a time when I thought that practically every time I got more then a passing glance my reaction was "THEY know... Some guy in a dress". Today after a lot of hard work my reaction is a lot more like "Damn, it wasn't just me thinking I looked good in the mirror"
Between therapy, my TG support group, and a ton of self-help / inspirational type books I learned a lot about myself. Why I likely reacted the way I did. Most importantly different ways in which I can start changing and growing into the sort of person I'd rather be. Inside and out.
It does get better