Have you ever wanted to come out to someone even though you don't have to yet?

[FemPossible]

I live with my mom and brother. I have already told my two sisters (who don't live with us) and my mom. My brother doesn't need to know right now. I can probably avoid telling him for quite some time. However, something in me wants to tell him or at least make him suspect that something is going on. I don't know why I want to, I just do. He's not the most LGBT friendly person, but he's not violent or anything. In fact he's a bit of a "gentle giant". So, I'm definitely not worried about any kind of retaliation or anything. The main thing is that there isn't any logical reason to tell him yet. What should I do? Should I just do it and get it off my chest or keep quiet?

[autumn08]

There is a reason you want to tell your brother you're transgender, so it's logical to consider. Whether it's logical to do, depends on the risk to reward ratio of your desired outcome.

If you decide that now isn't the most opportune time, then you should determine what conditions must be met for you to come out and strive to meet those conditions, as in most situations, it's better not to indefinitely remain in the shadows.

[popa910]

While I've never been in a scenario quite like yours, I have felt the urge to divulge to someone.

I'm still figuring out my gender identity and everything, but as I was beginning this process a month or so ago, I kept feeling like I was bottling myself up, keeping all this stuff to myself, and it was consuming my thoughts.

Then I decided to ask the advice of a friend of mine who is a member of the LGBTQ+ (or whatever abbreviation you prefer) community, and while even that was a bit nerve-wracking, it did take a bit of the load off my mind.

It also helped when I found this site, where I could explore and learn about myself without any fear of retribution.

I'm not saying you should or shouldn't come out to your brother, but just sharing my experience.   I would suggest that you do what is best for your sanity.  Maybe you can find something that you can do instead to alleviate your urge to tell your brother?

Best of luck!