One More Person To Come Out To (Dad)

[Alice.G]

Hello everyone my name is Alice , I started transitioning this February and started estrogen in April. I came out to everyone in my family except my dad. Thankfully no one has rejected me yet. Me and my dad have had a rocky relationship all my life. when we were little he was physically abusive towards me and my little brother. He knows I used to dress up when I was little (i'm 23 now) but he doesn't know i'm transgender or that i'm transitioning . At this point I no longer live with him; but we've been able to mend our relationship for the most part and things are pretty good right now. My question is what do I do at this point ? four months on spiros, two months on estrogen and four sessions of laser  , medium length hair? I mean i'm not full time yet but I haven't seen him since December. My therapist says if I don't tell him he'll find out eventually and that'll may make the situation worse. what do I do? what do you guys think?

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place. My view is if you are going to tell your father, you should do it soon. It sounds like you are close to going full time and once you do it will be past time to tell your father. One question you might ask your self is if you have told everybody else, why haven't you told your father?

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[Alice.G]

Yea, I just don't know because of our rough past and the fact that our relationship is on good terms now I feel like I don't Wanna mess that up

[Dena]

If you are uncomfortable coming out to your father, I suggest you discuss this with your therapist because it will be better sooner than latter.