As is said so often, each of us is different. My experience is my experience. But, since some here said a little over a year ago that I was too old for GRS, thought that I'd set the record straight.
At age 74, with help of wonderful therapist, connected the dots and realized that I was not a cross dresser, but transgender. This came after a period of trying to lead a dual life. That was March 9, 2015. Instantly, my mind was freed - except for the incredibly stressful time of telling friends and relatives of my intent to transition.
June 28, 2015 was my last day presenting as my old self. In September came facial feminization surgery and trachea shave. In November, began estrogen. On May 31, the day before my 76th birthday, had GRS. What a birthday present! It's a girl!!
It is a wonderful new world. Except for the loss of a few friends.
Major factors have been a team of caring, compassionate and expert doctors and my wonderful therapist. My doctors tell me that I have done very well, even though I am far from being any kind of athletic specimen. I have followed their advice to the letter.
The support of new friends from the James River Transition Society (JRTS) has been so important. I was hesitant to visit them. I am so blessed by this wonderful group of people. Have benefited so much from their experience. But, I realize that many of you may not have access to such a group. All of us in JRTS are different, but we all have had the inexplicable yearnings to be a gender different from the one we were born with.
Oh, the most important factor of all: a loving wife, an incredible person with whom I will share my life to the day we die! Yes, I know so few have that. I appreciate her more than anything in the world as we approach our 50th anniversary.
So, for others in there sixties and seventies, it may not be necessary to live a double life if you are truly transgender. I tried - it did not work! But each has to make that decision on their own, not another's, experience and needs. Cannot say enough about the value of having a really, really good therapist to help arrive at your own decision.
For me there are compromises that I have to cope with. Found that at age 76, hair removal procedures did not justify the disruption to my life. My doctor is conservative so hormones are increased very slowly. Would be age 78 or 79 before I should have breast implants, so doubt that will be done - and then there is the matter of the voice. But, have had no problem passing in bathrooms and elsewhere for three years. Men would not want me in the bathroom with them!!
I am in awe of my sisters who are having to deal with this in a working environment, especially ones that are testosterone heavy!! I don't believe I could have made the transition during my professional life. And the financial costs are so high!!
For another reference point, Google Amy Nutt's article in the Washington Post, Truth and Transgender at 70.
Love and best wishes to all.
