How long did it take after starting hormones to be gendered correctly?

[xAmyX]

I am wondering for educational purposes. I kindly ask that everyone answers with their complete honesty.

Thank you so much!

~Amy

XO's to you

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[alex82]

0 months. Minus. It's been a years long embarrassment (secret satisfaction) at being told 'Madame, this is not your passport', elderly men holding doors open - and refusing to go ahead even when I tell them to - as I always will because they're older, white van men shouting 'what you doing later love?' as I walk down the street - not you mate!

So knowing my luck, once I start, it'll go the other way.

[kelly_aus]

Are we talking family and friends or random members of the public? Because the answer is different for the different groups.

[Michelle_P]

0 months.   That is, I just started on hormones, but I don't recall being "Sir'd" for quite a while before that.  I do live in a relatively Trans-friendly location, though.

The worst I've had happen is for a small business owner to start praying for my salvation while escorting me out the door.  (Like "We don't serve your kind!", without the obvious violation of state law here.)  They were polite enough, but that's a wig shop I won't be returning to!  (And I found a much nicer one a week later.)

[Jenna Marie]

Do you mean at all, or consistently/by most people? I answered for the second one.   (I was occasionally mistaken for a girl as far back as high school; most people read me correctly by 3 months on HRT; I couldn't pass for a guy when I tried at six months on HRT.)

[Harley Quinn]

Can't quite submit a vote here... I am still getting Sir'd at 5 months. With a 13 month break and 4 months the first time.... so with the large break, I would probably call it 5 months and "Sir".

[Deborah]

While presenting more or less male I began being gendered as female by strangers at around 11 months.  By 17 months the norm is not getting gendered at all and when I am gendered its female more often than male.  Before HRT nearly everyone said Sir.


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[RobynD]

When i dressed appropriately and put on makeup and covered my facial scrub, i was getting correctly gendered before HRT. After HRT it became pretty consistent at about month 9 or so, fairly independent of what i was wearing.

[Barb99]

11 months, but I didn't come out until 7 months in and didn't start dressing in public until about the 11 month mark.

[Ashey]

Three months. Was teetering on male fail after two but waxing my eyebrows pushed me over the edge. Went full-time after four months.

[DawnOday]

I've been called the P word since highschool when they didn't call me the c word. I'm not sure this answers your question but I hope it does make you smile.

[Ms Grace]

I think you'll find it varies depending on the person and it isn't dependent on HRT alone either. For me I was gendered correctly after almost nine months, but that is only because I went full time at that point and made changes to my looks and presentation that got me to where I wanted to be. If I hadn't done those thing I wouldn't be gendered correctly at all, and even after three years on HRT if I wasn't doing those things I still wouldn't pass. For some people they don't even need HRT and for others they could have been on HRT for years and still do not get gendered correctly for any number of reasons.

[2cherry]

Looking back, it seems a bit like this to me personally:

1 year: ~20% of the time being called female.
2 year: ~50% of the time being called female. (got makeup, clothing & behavior right)
3 year: ~90% of the time being called female. (completed electrolysis)
4 year: ~90% of the time being called female. (completed srs)
5 year: ~99% of the time being called female. (worked on self esteem.)

That does not count the ones who talk behind my back, because I don't know. Currently planning FFS, which I hope will remove all doubt, not only in others but also in myself.

I think I would never "passed" on hormones alone... it's the complete package. Then again, woman with short haircuts in baggy clothes are often mistaken for boys, so yeah. I don't know. Hormones only do so much. Electrolysis was massive, truly life changing. More so than SRS, because no-one can look in my pants, but a beard shadow is in your face.

The moment I knew I passed pretty well, when a female officer was called in to search me. 

[JoanneB]

I'll give it a Big "It Depends"

HRT or not, at 6ft tall, balding, BIG everything, deep voice, etc, I have always gone out of my way to put forth the most typical "female" presentation I could. 1) I felt I needed too in order not to stand out. 2) I love girlie girl    I've never been mis-gendered when out in female mode.

TBH - there is NO wiggle room. At 6ft tall, balding, BIG everything, deep voice, etc., there is only male mode or female mode. OK, I do jeans and tee tops in female mode, with my wig and just a little light makeup never an issue either. Never mis-gendered in Male Mode with a B cup either

[Cassuk]

I am wondering for educational purposes. I kindly ask that everyone answers with their complete honesty.

Thank you so much!

~Amy

XO's to you

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Can´t pick a answer in the post since i have not yet begun on HRT.

But i have by random strangers been considered female since i was a teenager. and i am still referred to as her by some.

Until i correct them. As to stores , i live in a country where they are more informal and i haven´t notice any Sir´s or Mam´s

[Maria77]

I passed as female a bit before hrt.   Really, i felt like HRT was only a part of the package including appropriate clothing, mannerisms, hair & cosmetics.   

[kittenpower]

I was on HRT for a few years before I had my initial FFS, and during that time I only went out dressed in women's clothing a handful of times, and usually it was at night, because I had a lot to overcome; I was very muscular when I started my transition and I needed time for the bulk of it to atrophy, and I had a lot of brow bossing and very angular facial features. I went full time right after my FFS, and since I had only been out in public a few times before that I had a lot of catching up to do, and it wasn't easy since I didn't really prepare myself for full time transition, so in retrospect I would have gone out dressed feminely on a regular basis or as much as possible even though HRT wasn't enough to help me pass without FFS, because it took a few years to pass regularly after FFS since I needed to learn how to move, talk, and blend in with other women.

[xAmyX]

Interesting comments everyone! Based off of my own observations. The majority of transgender women appear to my own eyes as being mostly female around the 3 year mark and forward. Before that, they seem to get close with lots of effort, but I can easily notice giveaways without too much effort until year 3. I currently finished my 4th month, and am on my 5th monthly scripts. I know that I have a long way to go, but with a lot of effort, I do seem to get a lot more second looks from strangers. I will like to thank everyone for your input, and wish you all a wonderful journey towards that which is sought.

[Carrie Liz]

Took me about 13-14 months.

I started hormones with my hair short, so my main obstacle was waiting for my hair to grow out, I was gendered female while wearing a wig relatively consistently around the 7-8 month mark, but in terms of being gendered female by default with basically no effort, wearing my unisex work clothes, people started calling me "she" around 13 months into hormones, and by the time 14-15 months rolled around I basically never heard "he" again, and I've only heard it about 3 times since then, most of which were by accident.

[spx_1112]

I was working on my voice and passes for years before HRT and within the first month it all clicked for me as Femme.  Hugs Shannon