This is a question that your gender therapist (if and when you actually see one) should be asking: Do you want to be the beautiful girl, do you want to be with the beautiful girl, or do you want both?
And you are right, some guys do have a "secret." It's called being gainfully employed, being able to pay all your own bills and have some "girl money" left over, and having your own place. And no, I am not being snarky with you. I happen to be married to a beautiful Asian girl myself, and I dated quite a few Asian girls before I married her, and they all said the same thing: They did not care too much about a guy's age or looks, but they sure did care about whether he had a job and was financially stable, and none of them would ever date a guy who was still living with his parents.
