Help with finding and keeping a job

[EmilyRyan]

Unless you can find some special program somewhere that specifically hires people with that disability, any job will find anywhere is going to require some level of performance.  Usually, that required level of work will be defined either in the job announcement or in the interview.

There are lots of people looking for work and whoever is paying the salary wants to get some level of productivity in return for what they pay their workers.

With that college degree you will have the credentials to get any starting level job you want except for those that require a technical degree in some specialized field.  So you should figure out what sort of work environment you can function best in and start your search there.

From the searching I been doing there doesn't seem to be any kind of program like that well in Tennessee anyway.

I'm not worried about having to be productive (that comes easy to me) it's issues with job performance and getting fired as a result is what I worry about.

Finding the right work environment where I can function best still trying to figure that one out lol. I do know from experience warehouse-type work is probably not suitable as I was fired from two jobs in a warehouse-type setting.

[VeronicaLynn]

Have you considered more entry level office work? You already clearly have the typing and language skills there...can you file documents according to some specified type?

[EmilyRyan]

Have you considered more entry level office work? You already clearly have the typing and language skills there...can you file documents according to some specified type?

I have but like anything else I've considered I worry about job performance. I guess I could be able to file documents depending on the difficulty.

[EmilyRyan]

Is there a chance I could work in insurance without being in sales or claims??

[EmilyRyan]

Anyone else have any suggestions??

Honestly I really have no clue what to do with my life and still kinda feel even if I got a Bachelors degree I probably be stocking store shelves for the rest of my life and I can't help feel that no employer would want to deal with anybody that has both a learning disability and ASD.

[Elis]

You vould into doing a few evening courses just to get an idea of thongs you are and aren't interested in.

[EmilyRyan]

You vould into doing a few evening courses just to get an idea of thongs you are and aren't interested in.

Wish there was a better way to do that without spending a fortune on classes especially if I turn out not to like it I rather not waste money.

[EmilyRyan]

Sometimes I think I'm just too dumb to be able to get a higher paying job. Sorry but regardless if I get a bachelors or even a masters I see shelf stocking being the only thing I'm capable of doing. Everything else I look into and when I see the job descriptions/requirements all else seems too highly complicated for someone ditzy minded like I to even manage.

[EmilyRyan]

Anyone have any suggestions or better yet any business owners on here willing to hire me??

[jujubes1986]

Omg... 2 Wednesday ago I quit my job cuz I wasn't getting along with the manager... I've been working there for 2 years... But just last Friday the manager quit... So I called the boss and begged for my job back... I start again next week...

[EmilyRyan]

Omg... 2 Wednesday ago I quit my job cuz I wasn't getting along with the manager... I've been working there for 2 years... But just last Friday the manager quit... So I called the boss and begged for my job back... I start again next week...

That's awesome hope your job goes better since that manager is gone

As for me am still struggling to find a suitable employer seems no one in my state wants to hire anyone with a developmental disability (I have a diagnosed learning disability and I may possibly have ASD).

[EmilyRyan]

Anyone know of any employers that willing work with people like myself??

[Sno]

Hiya,

Ah, "performance anxiety". If you have a therapist, talk this through, CBT can help. Basically, fear of failure to perform, prevents you performing in the first place. If this is in combination with processing disorders, then you have a recipe for high levels of anxiety. Lots of performance is related to practice, basically training yourself, you become faster at specific tasks, and no-one expects a newbie to be 'up to speed'.

Even if that task is stocking and facing shelves, it's still a job, you can demonstrate that you can hold down a job, and you'll gain confidence in being able to do it extremely well - and those are desirable characteristics when looking for the next job. We all get worried about new jobs

There is an alternative. Create your own job. Offer 'help' services (shopping collection or ordering online with the elderly for example), washing/cleaning things (learn how to valet a car for example) - practice, practice, practice all you can. You never know what useful service you may come up with.

Do you have a diving license.? That alone opens a host of options

Just some ideas.

Sno

[EmilyRyan]

Hiya,

Ah, "performance anxiety". If you have a therapist, talk this through, CBT can help. Basically, fear of failure to perform, prevents you performing in the first place. If this is in combination with processing disorders, then you have a recipe for high levels of anxiety. Lots of performance is related to practice, basically training yourself, you become faster at specific tasks, and no-one expects a newbie to be 'up to speed'.

Even if that task is stocking and facing shelves, it's still a job, you can demonstrate that you can hold down a job, and you'll gain confidence in being able to do it extremely well - and those are desirable characteristics when looking for the next job. We all get worried about new jobs

There is an alternative. Create your own job. Offer 'help' services (shopping collection or ordering online with the elderly for example), washing/cleaning things (learn how to valet a car for example) - practice, practice, practice all you can. You never know what useful service you may come up with.

Do you have a diving license.? That alone opens a host of options

Just some ideas.

Sno

Hey thanks for taking the time to reply

Indeed I have some issues including a learning disability, that does effect the way I process things and the more complex they are the harder it is for me to grasp, and there's also a possibility I could have ASD (autism spectrum disorder) as evidenced by some the traits I show (and a few people I know have taken notice). My biggest issue I face in any workplace is pace I tend to be bit slow and it cost me two jobs already.

Sadly I'm unable to get any professional help right now

Self employment does sound like a great idea until tax time comes around

   

[Dena]

You need to take every opportunity you have to try new things. If a neighbor is working on a project, offer to help. If a friend could use some help, give it a try. If a hobby looks interesting try that. My dad was a great one for have us kids help him and in my case, when I took an interest in something he didn't know anything about, he might buy a few things to help the project along.

As for self employment, it's not a big deal. Yes you need to be sure you hold back enough money to pay the government but I do my own taxes and it take 3 extra forms to properly report the information to the government. The extra forms have very little information on them and I am not really sure why the government needs so much paper for so little information.

[Sno]

Dena is right, tax is not a problem really, just tedious (and most tax regimes have a step by step guide). All you have to do is ensure that you set aside 50% or so to comfortably pay the bill and have an end of year bonus

She's also right in just trying stuff out to see where your interests/abilities are

Accountants can be paid if you earn enough, and they should make the whole thing painless.

Processing disorders slow people down, and fall into one of 3 categories. Auditory, Sensory or visual. Over stimulation, prevents further processing, effectively its brain overload!

Have a read

Sno

[EmilyRyan]

I don't know I mean I like the idea but for someone like me it would just be too much trouble with keeping up with everything plus I don't exactly live in an area where finding customers will be easy to get.

[Tristyn]

Emily, this might come off as a little rude....but, how can we really help you if you negate every bit of advice most, if not, all the members here posted? I mean, whenever something is suggested to you, there is always a reason (excuse?) for you not to be able to do it. So what advice are you really expecting from this thread? Again, not trying to troll, flame or start an argument. I want to help too but I am afraid that anything I could possibly suggest will just be rejected along with what the other members said. It's totally understandable that not all jobs are for everybody.

But you've rejected every single suggestion, pretty much. What more can be said here to help you if you won't even begin to accept the help? I know. I can be like this too, especially when depressed and even more when suicidal. But when I am the one offering help and having that help negated, I can see how frustrating it is. The question is; do you really want a job in the first place?

It's good to be cautious, not paranoid.

[EmilyRyan]

Emily, this might come off as a little rude....but, how can we really help you if you negate every bit of advice most, if not, all the members here posted? I mean, whenever something is suggested to you, there is always a reason (excuse?) for you not to be able to do it. So what advice are you really expecting from this thread? Again, not trying to troll, flame or start an argument. I want to help too but I am afraid that anything I could possibly suggest will just be rejected along with what the other members said. It's totally understandable that not all jobs are for everybody.

But you've rejected every single suggestion, pretty much. What more can be said here to help you if you won't even begin to accept the help? I know. I can be like this too, especially when depressed and even more when suicidal. But when I am the one offering help and having that help negated, I can see how frustrating it is. The question is; do you really want a job in the first place?

It's good to be cautious, not paranoid.

Sorry I come across like that

truth is i can't handle most jobs that everyone suggests especially if that job is fast paced (been there done that twice).

I do really want a job but I also want one where I don't have to worry about being let go cause I'm too slow or they think I just don't fit in. I have some functional issues that I can't help or get rid of but I can make up for by being a loyal worker that won't come in late, doesn't slack off, and doesn't get smart with management. It may take me longer than they want for me to get a task done but I get it done.

really wish i can get an official diagnosis for ASD I believe it'll be a lot of help 

[Tristyn]

Sorry I come across like that

truth is i can't handle most jobs that everyone suggests especially if that job is fast paced (been there done that twice).

I do really want a job but I also want one where I don't have to worry about being let go cause I'm too slow or they think I just don't fit in. I have some functional issues that I can't help or get rid of but I can make up for by being a loyal worker that won't come in late, doesn't slack off, and doesn't get smart with management. It may take me longer than they want for me to get a task done but I get it done.

really wish i can get an official diagnosis for ASD I believe it'll be a lot of help

Have you ever considered doing self-employment? Like working from home-sort-of-thing? That's what really comes to my mind when you say you need a job where you can work at your own pace.

Well, as far as the ASD diagnosis, that would be tricky at your age. Not saying it is impossible though.