Quote from: Melissa on June 26, 2006, 02:23:07 PM
Here's the kicker. I'm sure that much of the reason you want to pass 100% is so that you will be completely accepted as female.
LOL, well no, I'd still rather be a normal physical female (not beautiful, just an average-looking female) in a world intolerant of transsexuals. Even if in this world everyone knows I'm a transsexual (maybe I have to wear a I WAS MALE button, lol), insists on calling me by my male name, forces me to continue wear male clothing, keeps my legal sex markers male, etc.
That's still preferable to a world where everyone treats me like a woman, encourages me to wear female clothing, calls me Kate, considers me legally female... yet where I'm still obviously a male physically. No amount of external validation will ever change the fact that I'm still male(ish)... and it's those male qualities which make me miserable.
Maybe I'm nuts, maybe for me it's more of a body dysmorphic disorder perhaps? It's curious that if someone refers to me as being female, it Rings True, sounds right, makes me smile and feels right. But if someone refers to me as a woman, I tend to cringe a bit, it sounds... presumptuous, off-base, inaccurate. I can easily say I want to be female without any doubts. I hesitate to say I want to be a woman, as I really don't aspire to it. It's a secondary issue.
I don't know what any of that means though, lol...
QuoteIsn't people accepting you for who you are, rather than what you look like more important?
Of course, but *neither* option would address my transsexualism. Acceptance is an issue when playing a role, a part, important when attempting to be a "woman," yet irrelevant to being *female*.
For me, I guess it goes back to that "better to be hated for what you are, rather than loved for what you're not" cliche. I'd rather know that I'm female, yet be hated for having once been male... than be a physical male who is treated AS IF I was female.