Amanda,
I feel very much the same way. I have been wearing suits for over 20 years now but have never really felt the sense of "power" or maleness that is supposed to come with wearing a suit. I view it as nothing more than a uniform or dress code which I have to comply with that comes with working in my profession. In fact, I don't think I have ever been "impressed" by another male in a so-called power suit.
However, I have always been impressed by and attracted to a woman in a tailored business skirt suit, smart blouse/skirt/jacket combination or designer dresser in heels. Indeed, I am drawn to wanting to wear what I find most attractive on other women, this also includes very feminine undergarments such as corsets, garter belts, stockings and pretty underwear. I think this can also manifest itself in wanting to shave our legs etc, as it creates both a feminine look but also a feeling of femininity.
I don't believe this is our subconscious pushing us away from the traditional signs of maleness rather it is a focus on what we find intrinsically attractive and therefore what we aspire to emulate. I often feel that I don't care what I look like dressed as a man because I am doing it because that is what others expect, yet I care deeply about how I look dressed as a woman because I am doing it for myself.
Love GiGi xx