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what % of clocking would make you reconsider transition

Started by stephaniec, July 29, 2016, 12:19:38 AM

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What % of daily, weekly, monthly clocking would stop your transition

0-10%
3 (5.6%)
10-20%
2 (3.7%)
20-30%
3 (5.6%)
30-40%
1 (1.9%)
40-50%
1 (1.9%)
50-70%
1 (1.9%)
70-100%
1 (1.9%)
clocking makes no difference to my transition
40 (74.1%)
The slightest clocking would reverse my transition.
0 (0%)
other
2 (3.7%)

Total Members Voted: 54

Maria77

I hate being clocked.  It doesn't happen a lot these days, but just enough to remind me that I'm tranz.   As i've aged its gotten To be less of a factor.  I don't think i would have changed any part of transition.
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SashaGrace

In the last year it's happened to me 3 times I was aware of and the people doing it made me very aware by being rude. I'm lucky it happens so infrequently for me, not that it changes things, I would never want to be any other way. The pity party people do my nut in as well, I don't want pity, lets just get on with life shall we?? :D
'Yea though I walk through the shadow of the valley of death, I will fear no evil.' Psalm 23, Verse 4
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Michelle_P

Yeah, getting 'clocked' is no fun.  Getting 'The Look' can hurt, and worse, having some lout shout it out to the world can feel dangerous.  Leaving a train station heading to my car one evening recently, I heard behind me, "Look, it's a transgender!" Just keep moving, don't break stride, keep smiling, head down, maybe they're pointing at someone else, the car's just ahead...  It's unnerving.

Fortunately most people are nice enough not to make it obvious when they do read us. I'm in a pretty friendly region, and for the most part people don't respond differently than they would to an older (I'm 62) ciswomen.  As I continue to age, I'll probably reach the point where I'm just another old person, with facial features that fit well on the elderly of either gender.

My biggest fear is that social acceptance will swing the wrong way in the current political climate, and we'll be right back in 1960 grade school h*11, where it's OK to beat the heck out of anyone who's different (and that was just the teachers), and treatment for gender issues will be legislated to the old standard when I was 15; electro-convulsive therapy and faradic or chemical aversion treatment.   I'm so not pining for the Good Old Days.

I just want to quietly live my life.
Earth my body, water my blood, air my breath and fire my spirit.

My personal transition path included medical changes.  The path others take may require no medical intervention, or different care.  We each find our own path. I provide these dates for the curious.
Electrolysis - Hours in The Chair: 238 (8.5 were preparing for GCS, five clearings); On estradiol patch June 2016; Full-time Oct 22, 2016; GCS Oct 20, 2017; FFS Aug 28, 2018; Stage 2 labiaplasty revision and BA Feb 26, 2019
Michelle's personal blog and biography
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Rhonda Lynn

This is really hard. I guess you have to decide which is more painful for you, passing yourself off as a man or suffering through clocking.

The third option is stay in safe spaces when going out as female.

However, even when you pass it doesn't that you won't ever face situations when people don't know that you're trans. At my daughter's wedding for example, I was the other mom. Was I self-conscious because people knew I was trans? YES! Did I let it ruin the happiness of the occasion? Not a chance. :)
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