CarrieLiz's GRS With Dr. Chettawut, 8/9/16

[Carrie Liz]

Hey Carrie! I was just reading your posts and had a good laugh because I think we were at the suites at the same time. I believe I know the Australian girl you're referring to, and I spent a lot of time with Cindy while we were there. I'm not in the fb group because I don't use fb, but I'm wondering how I could have missed you?! I met a lot of other Chet patients. I wonder if our paths ever crossed at breakfast one of those days.

I am just passed two months, so if you want to compare anything in regards to recovery timeline, feel free to ask!

If you're 2 months post-op, then I was probably leaving Thailand right as you were getting there. I checked out of the hotel and flew home on September 3rd.

[Andromeda]

I got there on 8/26 so a little bit of an overlap! Oh well. How are you doing? I am also behind on my dilation schedule, I've only just got comfortable with #2. I'm supposed to have started #3 but it seems terrifying. Glad to see this experience isn't uncommon.

[annquance]

Hi Carrie,
I had ffs and ba with Chett in March and stayed in the Dusit hotel. I saw no other Dr Chett patients whilst there. Do they tend to go to the Verticle Suite more. I am flying over in March next year for srs and it would be nice if this time I at least had someone to talk to.
Kindest regards
Ann x

[Andromeda]

Ann, I think part of it is luck of the draw. There were varying amount of patients throughout my month stay, sometimes more than others, but there were always at least a few of us staying at the Suites at any given time. I think the Dusit and Suites can feel more secluded because there isn't the same outdoor space as the Rama, so you're less likely to cross paths. I would recommend spending some extra time at the breakfast buffet, maybe taking an hour or two to enjoy some coffee, and literally just introduce yourself to anyone who looks obviously western or has a donut pillow. I found that my stay was whatever I wanted to make of it. It would have been very easy to accidentally go about my own schedule and not interact with any other patients, but the connections were there when I was feeling extroverted.

[LucyInTheSkaya]

Hi Carri Liz! I'm currently staying at the Dusit for initial recovery, 10 days post surgery. Unfortunately i can't write you a PN (don't know why), but i'm highly interested to be a member of your Chettawut FB aftercare group. You can pick me right up on FB, search for Kaya Küppers (Captain Q400).
I'm a german lady, 50 yo.
Thx to anybody here sharing her personal experience, it is still a very helpfull source. And meanwhile a huge knowledge base.

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[LucyInTheSkaya]

Thx Dena! As usual didn't read the instructions carefully enough, sorry. And again thx to Carri Liz and her detailed report, until today (10 post)  it's in most parts copy and paste to what i experienced. Overall smooth operation, hope it will continue this way.

[TheBuddy]

My gf who had surgery in October is having some issues would like to get her in the face book group can you post a link she can follow to it we were at the cottages at bangkok ramma and stayed 45 days was only boyfriend was with some one getting srs so group should be able verify we were there.

[mac1]

Carrie,

Please give us an update on your progress.

[Carrie Liz]

I apologize for disappearing for so long.

I honestly haven't been doing that great. Recovery is still wearing me down. Slowly, slowly, slowly sitting is becoming less painful, slowly I'm kind of getting my energy back, but GOD, it is taking so damned long.

I'm definitely dealing with post-op depression, because I'm just constantly worn down, and looking for space to heal and relax, but life isn't giving me any, it's just been go, go, go, go, while my body is telling me to chill.

This recovery sucks. I can't sugar-coat it.

Also, while the very first time being intimate with someone after surgery was amazing, it's gotten less and less amazing each time since then because frankly not being able to orgasm and still dealing with pain when any pressure is put on the clitoris is frustrating as hell, especially since the guy I've been dating has a high sex-drive and REALLY REALLY wants to get me off, but I can't, and I probably really shouldn't be getting intimate in the first place because I'm dealing with granulation tissue, but I feel bad if I don't, just.... ARGH!!!

Recovery is a freaking mess, I'm tired of it, and I want so badly to just be done with this crap, orgasmic again, not in pain again, not constantly feeling energy-drained again, and just back to being able to live life instead of constantly planning my entire day around my energy level, pain level, and constant need to dilate.

[Jacqueline]

So sorry it is such a challenge.

Lack of rest can really mess with ones mental state. I hope you can get some good relaxation soon.

It's so easy to say don't feel bad and so hard to do. However, your partner might need to take your recovery in mind a little more.

Take care. You are in many of our thoughts.

With warmth,

Joanna

[Rachel]

Carrie, I am sorry you are having a difficult time and dealing so many things at once. Do you have someone (therapist) you can talk to about all the stress you are under?

I was told by my doctor at about 1/5/2017 I will be experiencing post op depression and be fed up with dilating. Is there anything that can be done to reduce the depression?

[jujubes1986]

I apologize for disappearing for so long.

I honestly haven't been doing that great. Recovery is still wearing me down. Slowly, slowly, slowly sitting is becoming less painful, slowly I'm kind of getting my energy back, but GOD, it is taking so damned long.

I'm definitely dealing with post-op depression, because I'm just constantly worn down, and looking for space to heal and relax, but life isn't giving me any, it's just been go, go, go, go, while my body is telling me to chill.

This recovery sucks. I can't sugar-coat it.

Also, while the very first time being intimate with someone after surgery was amazing, it's gotten less and less amazing each time since then because frankly not being able to orgasm and still dealing with pain when any pressure is put on the clitoris is frustrating as hell, especially since the guy I've been dating has a high sex-drive and REALLY REALLY wants to get me off, but I can't, and I probably really shouldn't be getting intimate in the first place because I'm dealing with granulation tissue, but I feel bad if I don't, just.... ARGH!!!

Recovery is a freaking mess, I'm tired of it, and I want so badly to just be done with this crap, orgasmic again, not in pain again, not constantly feeling energy-drained again, and just back to being able to live life instead of constantly planning my entire day around my energy level, pain level, and constant need to dilate.

Wow still in pain?? I'm sorry to hear... I'm 3 months post op and I'm awesome!!! Hope you feel better:)


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[Miss Lux]

I apologize for disappearing for so long.

I honestly haven't been doing that great. Recovery is still wearing me down. Slowly, slowly, slowly sitting is becoming less painful, slowly I'm kind of getting my energy back, but GOD, it is taking so damned long.

I'm definitely dealing with post-op depression, because I'm just constantly worn down, and looking for space to heal and relax, but life isn't giving me any, it's just been go, go, go, go, while my body is telling me to chill.

This recovery sucks. I can't sugar-coat it.

Also, while the very first time being intimate with someone after surgery was amazing, it's gotten less and less amazing each time since then because frankly not being able to orgasm and still dealing with pain when any pressure is put on the clitoris is frustrating as hell, especially since the guy I've been dating has a high sex-drive and REALLY REALLY wants to get me off, but I can't, and I probably really shouldn't be getting intimate in the first place because I'm dealing with granulation tissue, but I feel bad if I don't, just.... ARGH!!!

Recovery is a freaking mess, I'm tired of it, and I want so badly to just be done with this crap, orgasmic again, not in pain again, not constantly feeling energy-drained again, and just back to being able to live life instead of constantly planning my entire day around my energy level, pain level, and constant need to dilate.

Be patient this is not a chin augmentation or a nose job..... Even those take months to heal what more a sex reassignment surgery wherein your parts has been reassembled...what is 3 months to forever... You've waited for this moment for so long take care of it and be patient... sex will always be there after you fully heal....take it easy...

[mac1]

Carrie,

Sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time.

[mac1]

Carrie please give us another update.

[Carrie Liz]

Quick update, things finally started getting significantly better around the middle of December. (Around the 4.5 month mark.) Sitting stopped hurting as much, I was finally starting to get back to being around my full energy level, and I've been able to scale back on dilation.

I'm ALMOST finally ready to ditch the doughnut cushion. I've tested going to work without it, and seem to be able to do so around once a week now. I don't need it at all anymore when I'm going out to dinner or the movies or any other activity that involves sitting without moving around. Work is the only place that I still need it, just because my job involves sitting on a chair and actively moving around on that chair ALL day, which puts extra pressure on everything that normal relaxed sitting doesn't.

Dilation-wise, back in early December I still had to dilate twice a day with no question. There were many times when my BF would come over where I'd only end up doing it once a day because of time constraints, and I'd almost always end up paying for it afterward with increased levels of pain and tightness, and quite often had to step down dilators from 3 back to only 2 because it had tightened back up too much. Now, though, only a few days away from the 6-month mark, this is no longer a problem. If I skip my second dilation of the day, there's almost no difference in tightness now, and I've finally moved up, after 3 straight months of being stuck, to the point where I'm no longer using the #0 dilator at all and am doing the #3 dilator for 20 minutes. Next step is 30 minutes with the #3, then finally #4, which I've yet to try because I had such a hard time keeping up with the twice-per-day dilation schedule consistently. I'm SO relieved that dilation is finally becoming less of a chore.

My energy level is definitely back up, I'm not completely drained after a day of work anymore, the post-op depression fog that was hanging over me for the first 4 months after has completely lifted now, I really am starting to feel back to being myself life-wise and energy-wise. It was a LONG recovery, and I'm still not completely there yet, I'm still dealing with very slight levels of discomfort that come and go, but I'm at the point where the pain has dipped down to a 1. Most of the time I never even think about it.

[Jacqueline]

CarrieLiz,

That is great! I am so glad to hear things are looking up and brighter.

Thanks for sharing that with us.

With warmth,

Joanna

[Kitty June]

Thank you for that update. I was starting to worry after the difficulties and then the long absence.
I'm very happy to hear things have gone so well.

Congratulations

[Miss Lux]

Carrie,
I forgot to mention that the pain u might be experiencing could be sciatica from the surgery and from the epidural or anesthesia they stuck in your spine .... I had that too for monthsssss but the vagina itself was not painful.... Stretching excercises and Ibuprofen helps.... Look up sciatica stretching excercises it would really help... Take care....