Quote from: KarynMcD on August 19, 2016, 05:58:21 AM
Yeah, straight guys don't touch other guy's hair, especially by running there fingers through it.
Your friends might be married to women, but they ain't straight.
Depends on the culture really. I'm not sure how you can 'diagnose' sexuality from one confused post about a third party. Some straight guys are very affectionate with one another and it is often very lovely to see. There is something very charming in the innocence of young men, invariably straight friends, walking arm in arm, ruffling each other's hair, etc.
Presuming this person does not live in the Middle East or Southern Europe, there are a number of options...
They could be horrible people taking the piss.
He might be secretly gay. He might not be.
The poster might be seeing sexual things that aren't intended. They might act that way with each other and think nothing of it - some friendship groups just do.
My good friends and I tend to refer to each other by using 'the C word' - some people misunderstand and think its hostile. I've noticed that the word plays particularly badly in North America and the north of the U.K, where it's either complete taboo or reserved for real anger. But in London, it's fine, it's affectionate. It's all very culturally and location specific.
The most likely thing is that - new person not getting the nuances of an established friendship dynamic, combined with the fact that when they're all together, they act like teenage schoolboys. And they aren't seeing anything other than a cisgender male whose presence doesn't demand that they modify their behaviour.
Who knows? If the poster is uncomfortable with it, that's all that matters. I presume they are uncomfortable with it or they wouldn't be asking. None of us are there, so we don't know. If the person IN the situation hasn't got a clue, nobody else will.
