The Dysphoria/Age Ratio

[Steph Eigen]

I ran across this article on the Beaumont Center website.  It thoughtfully summarizes many challenges of coming out to wife and family.  In particular, it speaks to the mourning felt by the wife over loss of the husband and the issues of trust that are eroded by the existence of a secret part of ones life, not disclosed early in the realtionship.

http://95.131.64.55/~beaumont/downloads/Challenges.pdf

[Steph Eigen]

Jocee:

How do you balance the male vs. female roles in tour relationship with your wife?  Are they discrete personas or has your life morphed into something of a male-female hybrid?

[Jocee]

How do you balance the male vs. female roles in tour relationship with your wife?  Are they discrete personas or has your life morphed into something of a male-female hybrid?

They have morphed. I wear non-traditional scents typically marketed to women. My closet is 50/50 clothing wise. I wear caftan's in the winter and short sleep shirts in the summer. I wax every 6 weeks from top to bottom. I wear my nails long and get mani/pedis every few months (clear coat in the summer, toe color in the winter). I cry with the stupidest mushy scene in movies, and always have (which is one of the things she feel in love with). My ears are pierced.

I also have a very masculine sense of "right and wrong" and am very aggressive at times when I perceive that someone is on the wrong side of that. I'm a born and bred East Coast, so I drop the F-bomb all the time, have a biting sarcasm that you do not want to be on the wrong side of, and generally loud and obnoxious about things like the Red Sox and Patriots..... 

Joanna

[Steph Eigen]

Great photo.  You seem to have come to terms with all this quite well.  Do you see yourself moving toward full MTF transition in the future?

[Jocee]

Great photo.  You seem to have come to terms with all this quite well.  Do you see yourself moving toward full MTF transition in the future?

Thanks and that is my current dilemma