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Started by aeronon, August 10, 2016, 08:53:01 PM

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aeronon

Hi! I'm Aeron, I'm AFAB nonbinary and go by they/them. I'm 15 (entering 10th grade and recently got my learner's permit for driving :0 ) And I really, really want to be a pro hockey player. I play for an all-girls team currently and I'm joining my highschool co-ed team this coming year

I want to be more mascluline-presenting and go on T and get top surgery eventually, but the problem is I don't want to be a man, either :/ I'm planning on coming out this school year too and I live in a pretty lgbt friendly area (sf bay!) I'm out to my parents but my dad doesn't understand it- mom's great tho!

Advice for dealing with coming out, possibly transphobic teammates that I HAVE to play with, and experience with T??

Also, would pro leagues reject me on the basis of "using substance" and equate my T to steroids??? :/ that's my main concern about my future.
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Dena

Welcome to Susan's Place. People are becoming far more accepting than they have been in the past and if you are honest and treat them with respect, most will return the favor. I may have had some difficulty with a few people in my past but non of them were brave enough to face me and the harm they caused was indirect.

As for using T in sports, that may still be evolving and may vary from country to country. I suspect the decision will amount to defined levels you may have and regular testing to ensure you don't exceed the levels. However making the pros in any sport is very difficult so I would suggest a secondary profession that you can fall back on should your abilities not be sufficient to make the pros.

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aeronon

thanks so much for replying! Hopefully by the time I'm in college there's at least one trans athlete out. I'm an artsy person as well, so if hockey is a flop for me then I can fall back into graphic design...hopefully!
I also did a quick search and found out that Chris Mosier is a trans man on the USA Men's Cycling team, and the Olympic comittee monitors testosterone levels of only women athletes and there's no restrictions on men. Im not sure if this is what the NHL will adopt though, having 0 openly trans players :/
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Heita

Hi Aeron, it depends on your level of T. It has to be within the range of a cis guy.

As for transphobia, I just wrote to the lacrosse federation where I live if it was ok for me to ask a local team to join, being an afab man with no medicalisation. They gave me the green light, put me in contact with a person in the team who confirmed me that there was no problem for the guys and trainer in the team.
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aeronon

Hi Hetia!!
That's really cool of that organization to do, hopefully the people here might be the same way about me- then again, lots of girls in my area play for boys' hockey teams because of the lack of girl's teams... my concern is my NB identity being understood aah. Thanks for replying :0
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popa910

I've played hockey from 1st grade until 9th grade, and during that time, I played with 2 different girls on my teams.  I don't think that any of the guys found it weird or uncomfortable at all.  However, these girls were not trans, so there wasn't that to deal with.

At the same time, I imagine that, had either of the girls (or both) come out as trans, we would've just accepted it.  We were a team, we were all friends, we just wanted to play hockey together!  At the least, that's how I would've felt.  It might have even made the group closer, as the guys would learn (probably slowly) to stop treating the FTM boy as a girl and start treating him like a guy.

And if you're worried about the guys treating you with transphobia, I can't tell you anything that I've done in the past that's worked.  However, in the face of naysayers, I am of the opinion that it is best to keep your head down and walk the walk.  If you just work hard, people will probably come around sometime or another.  Particularly helpful is if you're one of the better players.  It's hard to hate against the team's MVP, when they help the team win.

If that doesn't work, you may want to do your best to make friends with the more accepting teammates.  Once you do, they will most likely stand up to your antagonists for you.

I hope some of that helps, and good luck with the NHL dream!
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