Booty call? I hate this feeling

[Draculess]

Well, it seems like you've already made up your mind, but yeah, that guy sounds pretty creepy and all of that behavior kind of borders on harassment. Asking someone who you haven't even properly hung out with if they're a virgin and making other really forward remarks is a pretty big red flag. And sadly, yeah, I can't imagine this would be the type of guy that would be very understanding that you're trans either. Good for you not going. I'm sure you can find someone more worthwhile than that.

First, for your own safety, never ever even come close to any kind of intimate relationship with someone who does not know your sex and your gender. Don't even go on an ice cream date with someone who doesn't know who you are. It's first of all misleading and deceiving towards them, plus it's really risky for you. I don't care who the person is, the first thing you should tell them straightaway, maybe even before they know your name, is your sex and gender.

I have to strongly disagree with this if you're saying what I think you're saying. You shouldn't have to disclose your transgender status to everyone you meet. There's a way to compromise your safety. It's really none of their business unless sex is on the table. The whole "misleading and deceptive" thing is frankly derogatory.

[Aethersong]

Definitely a bad idea, which you already came to the conclusion of yourself.  Don't fret be yourself and have confidence and the rest will come in time.

[ferencmerenda]

I am not going guys, thanks for the help, I just needed to vent

I am afraid I will never get a man who will love me

Thank GOODNESS!  Your story just creeped me-out BIG time!  Like when would your story show-up on "48 hours?"

And as for your concern: YES you will.  And he will sweep you off your feet & love you for who you are AND aren't.  I hazard to say most of us here are older than 19 (most a LOT older), and frankly, YOU'VE got the jump ON US:  We've burned-up a lot of our years, destroyed or lost loves, created enemies (friends come & go; enemies are forever), and have our regrets.  Sad.  Pretty faces come & go, and even nice faces age.  We all do.  My advice:  Search his heart.  Someone who truly loves you.  Willing to mature with you.  And as he ages, you can honestly look him in the eye (even when he's asleep) and realize: Hey!  What's up?  He's getting cuter (real loves DO!) over time.  Don't rush.  Your choice to transition didn't occur overnight.  Such an important decision as to whom you share your life with shouldn't take just overnight, either.  If he can't accommodate your wishes, your concerns, your wants... forget him!  Those guys just get UGLY with time... and that doesn't take long AT ALL.

[Beth Andrea]

I am not going guys, thanks for the help, I just needed to vent

I am afraid I will never get a man who will love me

"Never" is a very long time, sweetie.  There's a saying, "A lid for every pot", it just takes time to find the right person. Make it easier on yourself by looking at the person's character rather than their body...looks fade over time.

This guy would've gotten the boot from me the moment I saw he was in a relationship...if he's willing to cheat on her, then he'll be willing to cheat on you.