Dating sites

[Patricia]

While researching the subject of cross-dressing, I came across a Lesbian/Bi-sexual woman's dating sight that I felt compelled to check out.  Of course after looking at one or two profiles you're prompted to post a profile of your own and without doing so, you can't read any other profiles.  I figured "what do I have to loose?" As a result, I ended up posting a profile (no photo attached), and I sent several "winks" to some of the other members not expecting to get any responses.  Now, I've been on match.com for quite a while now (man seeking woman), and I can sit and write e-mails for hours without getting one response, but with this site, I sent out a few "winks" and almost immediately began getting responses.  So, the questions are:

Is it OK far a man to post a profile on a site like this using a fem name?
Do you think some of the girls, after I tell them, will be upset by the deception?
Should I include in my profile somewhere that I am really a cross-dressing man?
Do you think that by including that in my profile my responses will not be as positive?
Any other thoughts on this subject?

Patricia 

     

[IsabelleStPierre]

Hey Patricia,

Hum...you might have some problems down the road with some of the people you strike up a conversation with. Some will feel like you are not being honest, yada, yada, yada. I personally don't have much experience with site like the one you mention in particular, but the few sites I do have experience with I have always started my profile out:

* * * N O T E * * *
If you read anything on my profile, please let it be this:

I AM A PRE-OP MTF TRANSSEXUAL.

Just what does that mean? It means I was born a male and now live my life as a female. Pre-op means I have not yet had my sexual reassignment surgery...so yes I still have a particular male part.

Even with that I still get approached by people who only look at my picture and hit the send button too...oh well, I can only do so much...you can lead a horse to water....

I personally feel it would be best to be honest about things on your profile; you might be surprised just how many people won't even care...

Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre

[mickiejr1815]

i second what Izzy says, but while being honest, some will probably want to see pics. if yu aren't what they like, then yu are more likely not to hear from them again. if they can't like you for who yu are then yu really didn't want to talk to them anyway. also many lesbians don't find us mtf's very desirable and i have been told before that prefer the real thing to put blunt to say the least. i am married now and happy with the woman i have. i hope yu find someone special too...


Mickie

[Patricia]

Hi Isabelle and Mickie,

Thank you for your responses.  I did tell the girls that contacted me that I'm really a man, and surprisingly enough 2 out of 3 of them are still interested in getting to know me; however, I don't have any cross dressing photos to post or to send, but I did e-mail one of them a photo.  It kind of makes me nervous to have that correlation between my chosen femme name and my given name (it's part of my e-mail address) with a photo attached, but she did publicly put herself out there as a lesbian, so I think she is sincere when she says she is not one to judge people.  I don't think I have too much to worry about.  It will be interesting to see how this whole thing plays out.

Patricia 

[mickiejr1815]

please, Patricia, let us know what happens. we are pulling for you.


Mickie

[Skye]

Patricia, make a yahoo, hotmail, gmail addy.  And be done with it.  Anonymity on the web is far too easy.