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Started by FarfallinAlexa, August 23, 2016, 01:51:56 PM

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FarfallinAlexa

Hello everyone. I have been lurking around here for years but never actually wrote anything. I want to thank in advance to everyone that has put out there such helpful information that someway or another ive used along this long path i'm on.

Im 31, trans, Hispanic, and i started my transition in late 2008 while working at a retail store in CA. I have had a long hard road, though ive been blessed or lucky enough to not have had it as hard as others have.  I've had been full time since 2009-ish, had breast augmentation in 2010 and my orchi in 2012.  I have a good insurance plan through my company which covers SRS (already scheduled) but doesnt cover FFS. Per WPATH SOC, ffs is medically needed, and my plan says that "consideration for benefits is guided by the most current standards of care as published by the World Professional Association for Transgender Health WPATH and by the provisions, limitations and exclusions as seth forth by the plan". So i dont understand.  Do you guys have any advice?

I have a very loving and supportive bf who says i'm perfect the way i am, but being in the field i am in, my looks bother me, it bothers me when i feel some people are staring at me or whatever.... even though i am passable i still feel theyre on to me or something... am i the only one? i get very VERY anxious and i start sweating, turn red nd start shaking at times. I haven been FT for a long time and i often feel as if it was my first time steeping out into the world. Any advice?
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Jacqueline

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I am glad you have found help and support here in the past. I hope you are able to find what you are looking for into the future.

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FarfallinAlexa

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Dena

I have never worried about people looking at me and if in the rare instance I should spot somebody looking at me, I just ignore it. I have been out with people who feel as you do and when they get nervous, it invites more staring from others and ends up getting both of us read. It may be difficult for you at first but try putting the thought that they are just admiring a beautiful woman in your head and a smile on you face. If you don't provide something to hold their attention, they will soon lose interest in you.
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V M

Hi Alexa  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

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FarfallinAlexa

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Quote from: Dena on August 23, 2016, 06:05:08 PM
I have never worried about people looking at me and if in the rare instance I should spot somebody looking at me, I just ignore it. I have been out with people who feel as you do and when they get nervous, it invites more staring from others and ends up getting both of us read. It may be difficult for you at first but try putting the thought that they are just admiring a beautiful woman in your head and a smile on you face. If you don't provide something to hold their attention, they will soon lose interest in you.

That's what my bf tells me, I mean I do it sometimes and it works like a charm but then I stop. I work for an airline so I'm at airports and airplanes and stuff so around a LOT of people and I get anxious. I love my job, don't get me wrong... But I wish I didn't freak out like that lol oh and I'm 6'2" with my heels so that doesn't help lol


Moderator Edit:I suspect that is the quote you wanted.
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Thea

Hi Alexa!
As one Zonie to another, welcome to Susan's.
I live in Flagstaff, a more liberal city than most in AZ. Most people here have a live-and-let-live attitude so when I get noticed it's not usually a big deal.
I've noticed that more people notice me when I'm nervous than when I'm not. Or maybe, I notice people noticing me more when I'm nervous.  :P Either way it's easier for me when I don't care.
Veteran, U.S. Army

First awareness of my true nature 1971
Quit alcohol & pot 10/22/14
First acceptance of my true nature 10/2015
Started electrolysis 9/12/17
Begun Gender Therapy 7/06/18
Begun HRT 8/01/18
Quit tobacco 11/23/18

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Dena

Quote from: FarfallinAlexa on August 24, 2016, 03:40:04 AM
That's what my bf tells me, I mean I do it sometimes and it works like a charm but then I stop. I work for an airline so I'm at airports and airplanes and stuff so around a LOT of people and I get anxious. I love my job, don't get me wrong... But I wish I didn't freak out like that lol oh and I'm 6'2" with my heels so that doesn't help lol


Moderator Edit:I suspect that is the quote you wanted.
I am in the Phoenix area and also I am 6'2" in bare feet. I can only go up from there. Much of it is attitude. Possibly I had a head start because I was going to transition at my current job and started the process of coming out. I then was laid off under somewhat suspicious circumstances and rather than delay RLE, I push the time table way up and my early RLE was meeting strangers who my whole future depended on. I worried about getting the job and I worried about what I might have said was wrong and I worried some about passing but the exposure to strangers helps make you comfortable around them. Just think about your job and realize that you have just as much right to be there as anybody else.

Also one more trick. Work on your smile. If you become uncomfortable with somebody, look right at them and give them a big smile. If they are trying to read you, there is nothing more effective you can do to disturb their thoughts.
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FarfallinAlexa

Thank you. Oh Ya i smile a LOT. I'm a flight attendant, so u can imagine how much I smile lol

Thank u... Yesterday and today I've been doing great. Lol
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