Dangers and Pitfalls of Comparing

[michelleh]

Every morning I do am assessment of me. Do I pass as a woman? Second question what am I lacking and missing. Some days I see a woman looking back at me in the mirror then some days I see those still lingering masculine features like the hairline, large jaws, small lips and big head. I feel somewhat hopeless to change. I know why transgender ladies have such high standards and expectations. This is where CIS female even if they are wrongly gendered don't have to put up with is the fall out so naturally I certainly feel pressure to up the bar so I dress and present better than alot of females. I won't lie it is a battle to just say just do it anyway. I am not sure how my voice is doing but, it can be a challenge not to get paranoid and very self conscious. I do fake it hoping to make it. Living through the first few years as being a full time trans woman I know I will have to accept somethings aren't changeable and doing every change may require more money than I can afford. This doesn't stop me because my dysphoria doesn't rest. How do you cope with this pressure on a daily basis?👠

❤️Michelle

[Sinclair]

Well, first, your profile pic you look like a woman.

Second, I don't care what others think. I'm just over that. I'm going to be who I am, and like you stated I try and present very well, ... this is me, don't care if others may question.  How do I cope? I do things that make me smile every day. That's different for everyone, but for me, it's a new dress, new makeup approach, keep growing my hair longer, getting more breast growth, etc., keep moving forward! Always keep expectations realistic and be comfortable with the best woman you can be.

[Janes Groove]

I think one of the gifts we are given by the universe as transgender people to balance out all of the bad stuff we have gone through and go through is that we are in some ways forced to look past the surface and see the person inside.  I have met all kinds of trans women who don't pass, but still, one is always able to see the woman inside if one is open to it. 

In the end, I think people see what they want to see.