Being Femminine

[kasspurple]

Hello all,

  When I feel dysphoric I often find myself focusing on certain aspects of myself that I wish were more feminine.  Of course, that includes my body all over, but one thing keeps coming to my attention.  I wish, sometimes more than anything, that I could cross my legs and sit ladylike (at best I can get my ankle a little pass my knee).  Part of this is my body frame and part is my weight, but I'm not sure if I got either in check it would change.  I find it so disappointing at times.

  In that vein of thinking, anyone have any tips on maybe improving my luck on this?

  Anyone else relate to these kind of feelings regardless of what aspect you wish felt more 'right'.

[Quinn]

I had the same problem also, when I was wearing a skirt or a shorter dress I wanting at least be able to close my legs by I weighed to much in the thighs to do this, couldn't cross my legs either. In Janurary of 2015 I was 220lbs now thru exercise and diet I'm at 143lbs I'm 5'7" by the way. I no longer have that problem and its not only easy to do it seems natural. So for me the weight loss was the answer.   

[kaitylynn]

I have dealt with obvious body issues for my whole conscious life it seems, but there are things that I have always had control over that I try to focus in on.

I struggle with my weight and that feels like it has been a life long thing.  There is a giant sine where I am above where I want to be and then things start to come together, only to have it shift up again.  The worst is when my doctor mentioned (innocently and I think he actually meant it as a compliments) that at least now my fat is girlie fat.  He is right, the deposits are where they should be for me...but I keep wondering why I am stuck with yo-yo'ing at all!

I have seen enough people find the key to changing themselves, so I know they exist and that gives hope!

[kasspurple]

I'm glad people are able to make the changes necessary to be healthier even with all of the issues that go with being Trans.  I feel like part of my concern is that my body shape, not just weight, won't ever allow for me to convincing cross my legs (or possibly do other things that might go along with passing).  My bone structure is quite large (in addition to my weight issues) most watches simply do not fit me, most stores don't even carry guy shoes in my size (which is a torture in and of itself when all I want to do is have that experience of finding the perfect heel or ankle boot in a store).

I don't mean to be a downer.  I really am glad people are making the move towards healthier living, it gives me hope too. 

[popa910]

Not to beat a dead horse (I'll try beating it in a different way at least ), but I also agree about the getting in shape advice.  Not only will you feel better about your body just because you're healthier, but excess fat on male and female bodies tends to be distributed differently.  Without that, that may be one less gender-related thing you hate about your body.