Redhot, you've been a member here for more than two years, and as far as I can see, just about every thread you've posted involves endless hypothecation over whether or not you are transgender.
There are really only two possibilities. Either you are or you are not. Either way, you still need to see a therapist. Until and unless you see a therapist, you are stuck exactly where you are and where you have been for the past two years.
If you enjoy living in your imagination and in the world of possibility, and you want to continue to spend all your time thinking about two possible paths in life, then no need to do anything. Just go on the way you have been.
But that brings us to the other issue: Your parents. I am a parent. I have raised three children to maturity. All three are independent and self supporting. I am not here to criticize you or your parents. I just want to try to help you understand their point of view.
You said your living situation with your parents is bad. In other threads, you said you are 25 years old, unemployed, and your parents have a government supported social worker of some kind who is supposed to be helping you go out into the community, get a job, make friends, and so forth.
Frankly if I were your parent I would have grave concerns about the whole transgender situation as well, not on any religious grounds but because from a parental point of view, the burden-benefit analysis is terrible.
Unless you get a job, and your own health insurance and pay for everything yourself, you are basically asking your parents to pay for everything. Which means you are asking them to shell out huge amounts of their own money, with no guarantee that doing so is going to get you any closer to living independently and being self supporting.
I am three months on hormones at this point. Since I started seriously working toward transition in late 2014 I have probably spent $20,000.00 on clothes, makeup, hair, therapy, medical treatment, hormones, and health insurance deductibles. And that is just the beginning. I expect to spend another $30,000.00 to $40,000.00 on facial feminization and hair removal that my health insurance won't cover. But I am spending my own money. I know one transgender who spent $100,000.00 on her transition.
And I am sure that is in your parents' thinking -- not only are you going to continue to live in their house and eat their food at an age when you should be on your own, but you are about to cost them huge amounts of money when they want to finish the job of parenting and plan for retirement.
If you want to get over with your parents, then think about explaining what they are going to get out of any therapy or transition. Be prepared to tell or show them how transition will help you live your own life and be successful. Because at the end of the day, that is what every parent wants for their child.
