I'm having a bit of a difficult time right now, and I'm not sure what exactly i can do.
Background info basically is that im 16, and an exchange student. I'm living away from my home and support system for 10 months.
I knew for a while (3-4 years) that i wasnt exactly cis and just this year before I left the US i told my closest friends and mom that im nb/genderqueer, and i was really happy!! everybody was supportive and even though me and my mom had some tough discussions about it, it was mostly me explaining things and helping her understand everything (she's very supportive of me, through everything ive been through)
Since ive been in northern Europe, away from home for a grand total of 4 weeks, i sorta realized something. i dont think that im nb but actually trans male- which im happy i figured out!! saying i was nb never sit quite right and it feels really good to start accepting myself and not pushing down my feelings anymore but it also brought a lot of new problems.
Back in the US, i had virtually no problems being 'me'; i didnt care about what i wore, where i shopped, ect. I still very much disliked people using she/her to refer to me but i never felt sure enough to come out & start correcting people.
But now that im here, i dont have very many friends (hardly anybody that talks to me speaks enough English + i dont know enough of the language here yet), my host family also has a hard time with English and that leaves me alone by myself and just thinking a lot.
Dysphoria is hitting me harder than ever before. i almost cried when i realized that i forgot to take my binder, even though i could never wear it here which hurts just as much. i feel extra upset inside now when somebody refers to me as a girl or uses she/her, like being alone made everything magnified and more intense. I dont know how to cope with these feelings, and i feel like im just drained. the reality is that i wont be able to actively do anything to help myself until after my exchange year and that on top of trying to live in the moment has been really stressing me out
Everything basically boils down to this- im trying to come up with ways to just make it through this next year, any advice on ways to help with dysphoria & to get out of this funk is such a help.
(also: i dont have any trans friends i can talk to/vent to this about and even though most of my friends are lgbtqa+ they are 7 hours behind and 5,000 miles away. we're all hurting still from recent events that happened in our community involving lgbtqa+ people and its been rough on all of us to be split up.)